Not much to my post really. My lovely friend died this morning.
I am feeling terribly guilty as I didn't manage to see him before he died. Not through lack of trying, but due to his sudden deterioration, frequent hospital admissions and in the end at his own request for no visitors it just never happened. I never said goodbye.
When I was going through a terrible time last year he was one of the few friends who checked in on me and I was so grateful to know he cared. I wish I could have done more for him.
Thanks for listening
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I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. It sounds like you had a really good friendship. I'm sure, as he requested no visitors at the very end, that he knew that there were people who wanted to see him but who just couldn't and that he was loved. Try not to focus too much on not being able to say goodbye to him in person at the time, and focus on keeping him in your thoughts and cherishing the wonderful friendship you both had. My Mum died three weeks ago and I talk to her, I try to project my thoughts to her - I feel like I'm going crazy at times, ha - and tell her I love her and miss her. It helps. While I was there when she passed, I have no idea if she really knew I was there or not as she was in palliative care and on morphine. It might have been the same for your friend had you managed to visit him. I'm sorry I don't have more advice for you, but I hope you can find some comfort in time. :) xx
Hello , I am sorry for the loss of your friend and I send my condolences. I lost a very good friend to cancer last year we both were diagnosed around the same time and his was late stage and was given 12 months, in the end he had 18 months. Near the end only family were allowed to see him at his and their request, plus he had a good family holiday and a holiday with his wife before he died . I felt guilty not seeing him near the end but I also respected his and family wishes,Just like you did so please don't feel guilty about it, you clearly were a great friend to him and he would have known this. Its difficult not being able to say goodbye in person, when my friend had his funeral his wife brought actifical rose petals which she sprayed with rose oil and you could put some on his coffin and say your goodbyes or take some home as a keep sake, I did both. When I feel down I open the little box I have them in and I feel his presence
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