Losing a parent - face to face meet-up

I’m sorry to hear about your Mum. That sounds like a great idea, but unfortunately I am at the opposite end of the country. I agree it is a real shame there are very few face to face supports groups, as grief needs to be heard and seen. I hope others are closer and you arrange a meet up x

Thank you. I hope one day there will be a network of face to face support groups so that we all have an outlet and space to be support one another. Xx 

Hi ,I'm so sorry to hear about your loss .I also beleive their is a lack of support for  those left behind .My boys are 29 and 14 and I'm very not sure how he is going to get through his life without me .we are very close and already lost his dad 7 years ago .

Thank you for your message. I’m so sorry to hear of your situation...I pray that your sons will not have to face a life without you. I also lost my father to cancer a few years ago, so losing mum has just crippled me. Please do mention to your sons in case a London based support network might be of interest to them, although I do appreciate it’s not for everyone. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and wishes. X

Thank you Tanlad ,unfortunately being stage 4 I can only pray it be later than sooner .my eldest son is london based so I will mention it to him ,as none of us family wise live in london .maria x

My husbands father recently passed, and we are struggling to meet people who have had a loss of a parent also. I am so sorry to hear of your own loss. We are surrey is this close to you? 

I'm so sorry TanLad for the loss of your beautiful mum. My mum was my darling, too - I lost her eight months ago (it seems insane to write that) after a very short battle with lung cancer. I was by her side too, with my sister mostly and also my brother. But I've felt the need to reach out and connect with others outside of my family, I think mainly so I don't feel I'm putting any more pressure on those I love. Sometimes it helps to share how I'm feeling with a stranger who has been through this too. I've found so much support on this site which is great. There is an organisation called The Loss Foundation set up specifically to support cancer loss, who organise London meet-ups, although those are not regular. I'll send you a friend request so please keep me posted if you do manage to set something up, or if you want to share anything. 

To Shadow, sending lots of kindness, strength and support your way. I'm so sorry for your diagnosis. I hope you are taking time to look after yourself as best you can, as well as thinking of your loved ones.

Thinking of you all, take care

x

Thank you so much ,one day it seems surreal like I'm on the outside and its happening to a different me ,then other days it grips me like a vice ,the thought of leaving my boys and my mum .she is 78 it worries me the toll being left to bring up a teen plus losing me will have on her .I try to prepare my boy but I know the devastation it's going to have on him x x

I know the feeling on wanting to meet people in a similar situation. As some of you may recall I lost both parents to lung cancer 7 and half weeks apart in April/May this year.

The NHS guidelines is that they wait 3 to 4 months before people are ready for counselling. Surley it should be up to the individual... 

I like the idea but I am in Hampshire. I have been lucky enough to been suggested a local charity called Butterflies Bereavement service that do a mixture of 1 to 1 counselling, drop in groups and lots of other things. They are working towards trying to get the law changed so that if an inquest is held the papers can't just turn up and report it in the local paper like they can. I am so glad to have found them. 

You are welcome to message me anytime but I know that's not the same. Maybe see if any charities in your area?

Best wishes 

Emma