Became a worrier ️

Fiona,

I lost my 48 year old wife to cancer a year ago. She had colon cancer with mets to the the liver, pancreas, lungs, and bones. She went from healthy to stage for cancer in a flash. I sat through every treatment with her, spent countless hours in the hospital with her as well. I learned more about cancer than I every wanted to. Now everything I perceive as being “off” with my body I think is cancer. Back hurts it must be cancer, bump on arm has to be cancer etc.  I hate it and I try to forget about cancer but it’s always there for me. It’s the bogeyman in the back of my head when I’m having a good day. I worry about my three kids when one says “I’m not hungry” , or “ my stomach hurts”. What has helped me is I give myself a two week rule. If I have a little bump I wait two weeks before worrying any more. It’s helps me because as you know most of the time it’s nothing. We have the benefit though of life and our love ones would want us to enjoy life and not let cancer drain any more emotion from us. Take life in and live for the both of you when it’s our time to go we will go. 

F cancer 

So very sorry to hear of your loss. I think when we lose someone close to us. it’s only natural to start questioning our own health, and mortality. My Dad’s bowel cancer was misdiagnosed for months with what started out as a discomfort in his abdomen, and after he died I found myself worrying about the smallest things, a pain, a slight twinge as potentially being something more sinister! Losing someone definitely makes you more aware of your own body and what’s normal and what’s not but don’t let that worry take you over. I agree with the previous post of if it’s on going then get it checked out!