I lost my mum 6 weeks ago , she was diagnosed with stomach cancer October 2017 she had surgery 18 th December and had cancer and stomach removed . She was in all over Christmas , which was hard I was struggling coping with her not being around for Christmas and worrying how my dad was goin cole , as they live in wales I live in Liverpool , anyway she seemed to be doin ok she lost a lot of weight but she was still hear , then she started treatment chemo and radiotherapy, I that’s when we really lost her , she was t same woman she was sick everyday she was weak , she never got better after treatment , the cancer was gone but her organ had been damaged by treatment so a year later in April she went back in hospital her organs started shutting down , so she made decision she wanted to come home , hopefully we would get weeks months with her as her and my dads anniversary would of been 27 of April 52 years but she came home 18 th April and died 21 st Easter Sunday hardest couple of days ever she was strong and amazing and she planned her funeral with me , which was hardest thing ever , I miss her so much the pain is unbearable and I feel lost and empty everyday it’s not getting any easier . Like people say
Hello , I’m sorry to hear about your Mum, I’m no expert on the grieving process, I still have loads of my mums stuff in my garage after she passed away in 2015 that I haven’t brought myself to sort through yet. I’m glad you’ve posted in the ask an expert section, I’m sure they will get back to you soon with some useful information. My own grieving process had to come to a quick halt when I received my cancer diagnosis and had to concentrate on me. I hope you find a way through to look after yourself.
Take care KT
Sorry to hear about your diagnosis, it’s hard for everyone who has lost a loved one but a mother and daughter I think it’s much deeper , my brother is grieving but I feel like Iv lost my world she was my best friend , we went everywhere together and confided in her she was amazing , I’m still coming to terms with not ever goin to see her again . Good luck for the future and take care
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