My mum

Hi Gem4

Welcome to the community.  I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your mum.  Bereavement is very hard to deal with especially for children.  However, there is support out there, here are some sites you can look at for further information and telephone numbers -

Winston's wish

Marie Curie

Barnardo's

NHS

All have excellent information, telephone numbers, email addresses and often reading lists.  The content will be fairly similar but there may be something different.

You can call the Macmillan support line 8 am - 8 pm, 7 days a week, totally free on 0808 808 0000 and talk to someone confidentially.  You can also search for a support group where you live by entering your postcode on this page - they may offer 1-2-1 support and / or group support.

Gem I cried reading this as I lost my mum 6 weeks ago , I feel the pain your son is feeling and you but I’m having night terrors , I’m ok during the day as long as I don’t speak to anyone , Iv got to the point I don’t want to talk to anyone , I want to talk about my mum but only to my dad and brother I’m e en pushing my hubby away , who has been amazing , I’m lost I feel

empty . My son is 16 and he is struggling he broke down crying in his exams . I’m trying to be brave and not cry in front of my family , but like now laying in bed my dad is in his bed I hear him crying and I feel like I don’t want to go to sleep coz I have to wake up and the reality of not having my mumher breaks my heart all over again 

I feel every ounce of your pain I’ve never felt anything like this my heart is broken I feel in pain! I have four children but my ten year old is taking it the worse I’m hoping the funeral will help him! It’s happened so fast she was only diagnosed 6 weeks ago and we was only told there was nothing they could do 3 weeks ago, she was so strong and to watch it eat her alive broke me every single day I was there when she passed and every time I close my eyes that’s what I see I can’t remember what her voice sounds like  

Your story and feelings sounds like mine so I believe u no how I’m feeling , my mums funeral was 3 rd of may and it was extremely hard coz it’s final my boys 16 and 27 struggling , but my dad he couldn’t breathe it was heart breaking , we all wore yellow rose and place it on her coffin my mum was cremated, but I didn’t want coffin to go down until we left so there was 50 roses on her coffin and we planted yellow rose tree , but I feel worse since funeral , may sound stupid but I felt she was still here but afterfuneral I can’t seeher or feel her anymore I see her face the pain in her face and I wiped a tear away but she passed and I can’t get that imagine out my head , keep talking about your mum and your son  ,but I feel your pain Iv lost my mum my best friend she was my world I feel empty .

I know Hun it’s the same for me I said to my partner last night I don’t think I will ever feel the same again part of me has gone forever , I saw her every day spoke to her 4/5. Times a day if my phone rings I still think it’s her! We need to stay strong Hun they wouldn’t want us to feel like this I can hear my mums voice in my head telling me to laugh and enjoy my babies! It will get easier it has to it will never go away but we will be able to remember them and smile instead of cry xx

God gem every time I read your message it is so much like mine , I rang my mum 4/5 times coz my parents live in wales I’m in Liverpool I missed them so much , as they only moved from Liverpool 2 years ago but I would go every weekend , time is supposed to be a healer but my heart is damaged now . Good luck and take care u will be in my thoughts for your mums funeral , stay strong .