My mum passed in february this year. She was told in October 2018 that she had 9-12 months left. Exactly 4 months later she died. I think I’m coping ok. I have days where she’s all I think about, especially those last few days before she died I just can’t seem to shake them off. Then I have other days where I think I’m ok. I know it’s a long road and that grief has no time limit. But I’m worried about my dad and I don’t know how to help. My mum was 56, my dad is 66. Sunday would of been there 35th wedding anniversary. I’ve always been a mums girl. I love the bones of my dad of course I do, but I’m struggling on how I can help him, what I can say, things I can do to help. I feel like I’m making myself ‘be ok’ because I need to be his strength. I’m 29 years old with a 5 year old, I have to be ok and carry on. But the truth is I’m not ok and I don’t know how to deal with that.
Hi
I'm really sorry to hear that your mum passed away recently and that you're worried about how you can help your dad.
I noticed that you'd posted a similar question a little while ago and wondered if you'd seen the replies. If you click on this link you'll be able to read them as they have some useful advice for you.
If you feel that your dad would benefit from talking to a professional then his GP should be able to put him in touch with a local bereavement counsellor.
It's perfectly normal to hear that you're struggling too so you might like to take a look at this information on bereavement and what support systems are in place to help. Again your GP can arrange emotional support for you or you could phone the Macmillan Support Line on 0808 808 0000 and have a chat with someone about how you feel. It's free to call and available daily from 8am to 8pm.
Sending a supportive ((hug))
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