day 12 after we lost mum suddenly and I'm still feeling empty and lost....after 2 years of caring for mum and life going at 100miles an hour to 0 with nothing to do as its all been sorted and organized its hard to explain I try to explain it as I'm a boat drifting at sea after losing all power and my anchor.
I’m very sorry for your loss. It is such a traumatic and lost feeling to go from the strange purpose of caring for a terminally ill parent, to trying to live in a world without them. I wish I could say more to encourage you, but know you did a great thing for your Mum and it helped her hugely. Finding a new ‘normal’ can be so difficult. Is there anyone in your family or friends who knew what you went through and you could lean on? People are ready to listen here too. Be kind to yourself x
when my mum passed away I would often liken it to hanging off a cliff by my fingertips, not pulling myself up or crying out for help. I hung from that cliff for 2 years. One day when you are ready and I hope that it wont be too long you'll be ready to start that engine and make it back to shore, but it will take time. Sending you love and a hug xxx
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