Dreading New Year

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Christmas was ok and we celebrated in my beautiful mum's honour and had lots of FUN. Just like she told us to and would have wanted. Of course we missed her more than words can say and we really kept her memory alive. 

Now the festives have ended and I'm back home. I literally am dreading the New Year. It's my Mums Birthday on New Years Eve too. I plan to just be in my pjs and chill with my dad and hubby. I really don't want the New Year to come. I don't want a year to start that my beautiful mum won't have lived in. I know it will come and I know I will find inner strength. If this year has taught me anything it's I'm stronger than I ever knew, I cope better than I ever knew. This is the hardest thing I have ever faced. It's werid but I know I can do this because my mum raised me and gave me all these skills. I just wish she was with me. I miss her so much, it still hurts like it was yesterday.   Xxx

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    Sunshine this is literally THE best news. Soooo very well done. You’ve done the hard bit already, realising that you want to live your best life and making a change. You should be proud of yourself and your mum would be too. Keep us updated with your progress won’t you.

    I wanted to thank you all your encouragement with the marathon. I’m by no means a runner or even fit but I too want a focus. I’d like you ladies to know you’ve spurred me on and I’ll be doing it for you all too xx

    Friday night - just whizzed around the house with the hoover and then cried to the Master Chef final - honestly, such a rock and roll Friday at Kate’s house ;-) Dexter looked bored. Prepping to head home and see my dad tomorrow and do my first marathon run Sunday. I’m going to run on the walk mum used to do around the village in Norfolk. 

    I cant imagine this weekend will be easy for any of us but remember a few things. Your mum would not want you to be low. They are all looking out for us and it’s our job to make them proud. I’ve realised something the last few days - I don’t recognise myself anymore but I’m going to try and become a better version of my former self because... mum gave me all the tools to become that person. 

    Lots of love to you all and always here if you need to talk anything through xxxxx

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    Hey MacTeam Slight smile

    Playing the usual catch up. My way of “coping” is to literally spend as little time in the house on my own as possible and so I’ve now signed up with a personal trainer! Not like crazy boot camp but I’m enjoying it. I lost so much weight last year and I don’t want to put it back on again. I would never have imagined doing this personal trainer stuff but the lady is so lovely and tailoring stuff for me (I have a bad back so can’t do much of what most personal trainers do). Can’t remember if I said but a new friend at my new job lost her Mum 5 years ago so we’re going out for brunch and a walk on Sunday. Cannot yet decide whether to go out to the woodland burial place, will see how it goes.

    Thank you all for the kind thoughts. It will be a tough day. We CAN do this - together in thought and prayer if not in body. 

    Peace, strength and hugs all xxx

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    Awww thank you Kate. Lovely words as always. I agree it's tough. But like you said our mums would want the best for us. Totally relate about not recognise yourself. And I agree our mums gave us the tools. Good luck with the run. Xx

    SPu, well done you, that's great. I lalso really struggle when I have down time. So I thought the gym will give me a reason to get up and out. I've paid for it now JoyRofl so no excuse. 

    Thinking of everyone this weekend. Shine bright for our beautiful mum's. I know they would be bursting with pride. 

    Xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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    Hi MacTeam,

    Just writing to say will be thinking of you all tomorrow, we will all somehow manage to get through it in our own ways.

    Well done on signing up for the gym and also the personal trainer you'll all be super fit before you know it. Good luck on your run tomorrow Kate.

    I'm glad to hear you have company tomorrow SPu, and it's someone who can relate to how you will be feeling it sounds like you will be great support for each other.

    Also sending love and strenght to you all

    Lou x x  

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    Will be thinking of all the MacTeam tomorrow.

    Kate - good luck with the training, we will all be virtual running with you.

    Sunshine - that’s really positive news, I wish I could get myself motivated. 

    SPu - as Sunshine said, well done you. I’m pleased to hear you have met a friend at work who understands what your going through. It will good support for both of you.

    Lou and Emma - will be thinking of you, our mum’s are watching over us and are always with us.

    GBear - we will look forward to seeing your paintings.

    Our mum’s would be so proud at how we are doing. God bless to all our lovely mum’s Heart️

    xxxx

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    God bless, protect and take care of all our Mums and any loved ones who we have lost. They will always and forever live on in our hearts.

    Strength to you all tomorrow.

    xxx

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    Strength and love to you all. Must admit just out of no where I've been in floods of tears tonight. Been telling myself all week. It's just another day. Disappointed relieved bit the emotions over whelming tonight. XxX

    I know the positive steps, I'm taking will happen and my mum would be super proud. But tonight I'm so emotional. So hot baths me early night for me. Keep reminding my self, it's ok not to be ok sometimes. Happy Mother's Day to all our beautiful Mums. Gentle hugs to you all. Xx 

  • Please bear with me for a short while the infection has effected my eyes so focusing at the screen is a bit difficult at the moment but at least the sores are healing now the antibiotics are starting to work and there is less back pressure on my eyes hippie! I can look to distance OK but optician believes I need to avoid the computer screen for a while but I will pop on here and there and I am thinking of you all.

    I know tomorrow will be difficult for you all but I also liked some of the fantastic ideas to honour your Mum's which sound fantastic. I am no runner not now anyway but used to be a good distance runner when I was younger. I think its a wonderful idea and a good way to help others too.  My way is to raise a glass to all your Mums and Mums everywhere tomorrow and say "Happy Mother's Day".

    Yesterday I found out another friend had lost their life to cancer it made me sad but I remember the good memories and they fact they were an amazing person who I respected for their gentleness and warmth. 

    Sending a huge hug to all

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    Thank you for your kind thoughts. Wishing you well and sending healing thoughts your way.

    Sorry to hear of your friend. Yes, focus on the good memories as it is how I am sure they would wish to be remembered.

    Xxx

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    Hello all lovely ladies -

    Just wanted to send you tonnes of love and hugs for tomorrow. So nice to hear from you all - Lou, Spu, GBear!!! 

    Just finished watching Forest Gump with dad (we both love that film) and we were both in tears. Also feel really emotional now - Sunshine, I hear you. 

    We will get through tomorrow and we are stronger than we think. Come on team Mac - WE’VE GOT THIS 

    xxxxxx