Mum

Never mind me. I'm just feeling sorry for my self. I am not important. 

I was diagnosed with cancer (metastatic melanoma 3 months after my Mum passed away in 2015, I’ve been having immunotherapy since then but another lymph node was enlarged on my last scan so they wanted to do a biopsy to see if it’s the same cancer spreading. 

On the way home from the hospital I had to smile as a lorry was infront of us and it was from the same town as where the funeral was, it felt like I was getting a sign, as I was 7 hours travel away. Funny coincidences happen.

You are important Sando, and we all feel sorry for ourselves sometimes, it’s only natural. It can sometimes take a while to swap from missing someone to fondly remembering them. 

No I need to look after my sister and niece and dad. That's the job mum gave me, she asked me to look after them. I am wilting now tho I give up can't cope anymore. 

Looking after them is important but so is looking after yourself, in order to do that, I think you know that your mum would have wanted you to look after yourself to, so I hope you find a way to do that. My dr helped when I was missing my Mum, he arranged some counselling for me. 

Hey Kt,

I'm Male. It's my girlfriend that wont stop asking me if I'm okay. 

It’s important to look after yourself. Grief is beyond exhausting and you have been there for your family, but they don’t need or expect you to be superhuman. Take time to feel whatever you need to feel and let people know you need space at times, no-one will begrudge your for it. In the long run that will benefit everyone. Talk to your family and tell them how you feel. Best of luck - your mum would be proud.