Babybear's Blog

  • 3 years

    It was 3 years ago today that Bert was diagnosed with his AML. he fought hard struggled through his chemo which caused all sorts of problems. He achieved remission and we were delighted. However, exactly a year later to the day he relapsed. Devastated was an understatment. They found him a Bone Marrow Donor and got him into remission yet again. We went to the Beatson in Glasgow the week after they told us he was in remission…

    • 18 Sep 2011
  • Insurance for Holidays

    Hi Folks not been on for a while looking for the name of holiday insurance companies whe will nor charge an arm and a leg to take my mum on holiday. She does not have cancer but has multiple other problem


    Love Teri

    • 4 Jul 2011
  • Sad day

    This time last year all of our hope and dreams were dashed as the consultant so calmly said to Bert " you have active leukaemia in you blood just go home you will be lucky if you have a couple of weeks left" Why do they have to deliver such bad news in such an unforgiving way. I think if Bert had been fit enough he would have thumped the Dr. Not for what he had to say but how he said it.

    He never wanted to…

    • 8 Dec 2010
  • Re Protocols for Lung Cancer

    Hi Re my post earlier in the week asking about protocols for Lung Cancer.

    I was asking as my sister had told my mum that she had Lung Cancer, However the pieces did not fit and I was questioning what the Dr had told her apparently according to her the Consultant just told her it was there without doing any further tests. don't know whether to be relieved at the fact she does not have it or angry for the lies she told…

    • 3 Aug 2010
  • Protocols for Lung Cancer

    Hi can anyone from the Carlisle area tell me what the protocol on treating Lung cancer is. My sister said she has been told she has lung cancer but will not get an MRI for another 2 weeks I was under the impression that an MRI was a diagnostic factor in these cases. I would appreciate your input. IF it is true that she has this then 2010 has been a hell of a year for me

    Love Teri

    • 29 Jul 2010
  • To All my Mac Friends

    Hiya its now been 4 months since Bert died and I thought you would like to know that I am beginning to pick myself up and start to get on with my life. I have just returned from 3 weeks in Canada with my step sister and it done me the world of good. I still miss Bert every day and everywhere I go something reminds me of him,but I can honestly say that I am glad that he is no longer suffering as you well know…

    • 25 Jun 2010
  • Bertiebassett's Boys

    Bert never lived long enough to meet his new grandson but he said all along it would be a boy, never faltering. He kept telling me he had seen him and I thought he was hallucinating. Who knows. Meet Murray Albert Whitehouse.

    Greg his other grandson so so happy when he got to see him before he was sedated this is a picture of them both 2 weeks before Bert died.

    • 22 Mar 2010
  • Bertie

    The Service was all he would have wished for his choice of songs went down a treat and there were loads of laughs just as he planned. I was astounded at the turnout, for an Englishman in Scotland he knew more people than me. He was very popular for being just "a nice guy".

    How proud he would have been of the family. Claire for all the support she has been to me and all the running around she and Joni have…

    • 6 Mar 2010
  • ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥Bye Bye Bert♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

    I don't think there is anything I have to say today except to Bert.  Sleep well I love and miss you this much


    • 5 Mar 2010
  • Bertie Bassetts Final Journey

    Before I write anything else, thank you so much from the bottom of my heart foe all your support not just in the past week but the past 18 months I needed your strenght to give me mine.

    Bert's funeral will take place on Friday 5th March at 12. I make no apologies for the choice of music as he chose it himself. His First song will be

    ACDC Highway to Hell

    Wipeout (recorded by his son)

    A beautiful song called Keep…

    • 1 Mar 2010
  • BertieBassetts Final Journey

    Before I write anything else, thank you so much from the bottom of my heart foe all your support not just in the past week but the past 18 months I needed your strenght to give me mine.

    Bert's funeral will take place on Friday 5th March at 12. I make no apologies for the choice of music as he chose it himself. His First song will be

    ACDC Highway to Hell

    Wipeout (recorded by his son)

    A beautiful song called Keep…

    • 1 Mar 2010
  • 21st Feb Bertiebassett 2010

    It is now day 23 since they asked me if I wanted resus if Bert needed it. They stopped all treatment except sedation and pain control 9 days ago, I have lived in his room never leaving it in all that time. They tell me on a daily basis that the end is near. He has a dreadful cough, secretions on his chest, bedsores and is obviously in pain at times. He is on a syringe driver for pain control and sedation. also getting…

    • 21 Feb 2010
  • 16th Feb 20120 Bertiebassett

    Bert is still fighting, I din't know how but he is. We had a few scares at the weekend where I had to call the kids in several times but he keeps on rallying round.

    He is sedated all the time now because the agitation was just getting worse, the fact that he could not remember stuff really upset him. He has to get his lungs suctioned several times a day to get everything off his chest so he can breathe. It sounds…

    • 16 Feb 2010
  • Feb 11th 2010 Bertiebassett

    Doesn't look like we will be getting home at all now. Bert has a Temp again, perhaps a chest infection as they say his chest sounds very crackly. He is passing so much blood. It is so heartbreaking to watch the man you love in such pain and be completely helpless, the most I can do is wet his lips for him and just be here. I am losing track of the days myself now.

    He is hallucinating almost all the time, even when…

    • 11 Feb 2010
  • 9th Feb 2010 Bertiebassett

    Yesterday Bert slept all day , in fact he has been sleeping most of the time since Saturday. but he awoke a little aggressive again,so had to be sedated again. Today he woke with a temp and his catheter was blocked so he was in agony. after yet more morphine as he threatened to start throwing things about I have noticed that that aggression gets much worse when he is in pain,  They took the catheter out for a while and…

    • 9 Feb 2010
  • 5th Feb 2010 Bertiebassett

    I can't believe it is the 5th Feb already where does the time go !!

    Bert is feeling a lot better today although not out of the woods yet they have stopped his IV antibiotics so fingers crossed. We are looking towards Thursday for going home as we are have a hospital bed installed in the house he is no longer mobile and cannot get up stairs to bed, A little rearranging of furniture in the sitting room and we will…

    • 5 Feb 2010
  • 1st Feb 2010 Bertiebassett

    Someone thought it would be a good idea to stop Bert's tablets for agitation and aggression,bearing in mind it has taken the Mac nurse almost 2 months to get the dose right for him at and the fact that there is now CNS involvement. I did tell them that this was not a good idea but they new better than me. They were warned last night that he was getting very aggressive but did they listen to me !! No they didn't.…

    • 1 Feb 2010
  • 30th Jan 2010 Bertiebassett

    Bert was rushed into hospital in the early hours of Friday morning with a temp of 39.1 confused aggressive and scared. He most likely has an infection as his temp keeps going back up we are waiting on results of cultures to find out where it is. Until the he is on some strong antibiotics and they are keeping him comfortable. I will be sleeping in his room with him as I don't want to leave him on his own. They have fitted…

    • 30 Jan 2010
  • 27Th Jan 2010 Bertiebassett

    Bert had quite a bad fall last night. He lost his balance abd fell into the bath and got himself wedged in. I had to get a neighbour in to help me get him out. Now he is scared to go into the toilet in case it happens again.

    His mania has slowed down quite a bit so I am hoping he will return back to his usual self shortly. He is back to sleeping most of the day but I think we prefer that to the hyper way he was at the…

    • 28 Jan 2010
  • 25th Jan 2010 Bertiebassett

    Steroids made Bert completely manic and paranoid, it was a bit scary. He thought I was going to hit him then he was sobbing for ages, then he wanted to paint the bedroom and was out of bed in a flash ready to do it. He paced the floor for hours. My nerves were shot to pieces as he kept stumbling. He kept hanging over the top bannister to shout something downstairs I had visions of him going head first over the top.

    • 25 Jan 2010
  • 21st Jan 2010 Bertiebassett

    Haematology appointment was today. Bert has been having double vision for a while along with a personality change. I had my suspicion's confirmed. The Leukaemia has spread to his brain. He refuses to discuss anything with the Dr's so it is left to me. I decided that I did not want an MRI of his brain as there is nothing they can do about it anyway. They have given him a trial of steroids to see if that will make things…

    • 21 Jan 2010
  • 19th Jan 2010 Bertiebassett

    I have not been on for a while as Bert is not great so I  have been spending all my time time with him

     I did manage to have lunch with Claire but it was brief as she had to go back to work. The Consultant does not think I have Arthritis which is good only Bursitis which is just as painful but he injected my hip and I should hopefully be pain free tomorrow.  He took loads of blood and an x-ray and I will get the result…

    • 19 Jan 2010
  • Bertiebassett 6th Jan 2010

    Tomorrow will be our 29th wedding anniversary I remember the day as if it were yesterday. We had only known each other for 3 months we were skint but happy. Back then 29 years seemed like a lifetime away

    Now, well what now. That lifetime has all but gone for Bert, he sleeps almost all the time, when he is awake he is having more and more panic attacks. We will spend the afternoon at the clinic and by the time we get…

    • 6 Jan 2010
  • New Years Day Bertiebassett

    New years day was the same as any other day for us Bert fell asleep on New Years eve  at teatime and slept until 11 am he did wake twice for tea but never drank it as he was asleep before I got it upstairs. y his friend came round but he would not wake up until much later so he got to see his friend for 5 mins and fess asleep again while talking to him.

    It was a long day for me but a lazy day not that I have any different…

    • 2 Jan 2010
  • Bertiebassett. 2010

    Well despite me not wanting it to arrive it's here. I can't sleep again Bert has been asleep since we came back from Haematology at 5pm yesterday. Because we went to the Panto on Wednesday he was exhausted. he has woke up twice for a cup of tea and fallen asleep before I have finished making it.

    They Consultant seems to think that he will need a transfusion so he will need to go in on Sunday if that is the case…

    • 1 Jan 2010