Hi
I have been feeling shaky and jittery since diagnosis two days ago. Is this usual? I have had a lot of people to tell about the diagnosis and can't help my voice shaking. Any advice or thoughts?
Yes. I've recently been there. I went to my GP after a week or so and she said I was in fight or flight. She prescribed Beta Blockers just to give me a bit of a break. If it's any consolation I only ended up using them a couple of days. Once I got out of that stress cycle I was able to think a bit more pragmatically. I also drew a line under people I told after a week really as I found it too provoking x
Hi Stelliebug Just answered your other post. I think the shaking voice is normal for at the moment, you're obviously in such a state of shock. It'll take a little time to come to terms with your diagnosis but don't worry, you'll get there.
I didn't dissolve into tears for some reason until after I'd had Brachytherapy then I sobbed for England in the hospital car park
Sending hugs, Barb xx
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Hi Stelliebug, bless you - I can remember very clearly how overwhelmed I was (and in some ways still am) regarding my diagnosis, even though I’m much further along my journey. I’d suggest taking your time and being kind to yourself. I’d also suggest being careful about who you tell, what you tell them and when. Analyse whether they really need to know and why it is that you want to tell them, and pace yourself. Slow things right down and find your own level. I didn’t tell anyone except my husband when I was first told I had cancer. I then told two friends who I felt I could trust to react the right way. I didn’t tell my adult children and their spouses till I’d had the results of my hysteroscopy - because otherwise I wouldn’t have been able to answer any questions about probable grade/stage and how serious it was. Though I did say I was having some gynae investigations to cover myself. I then remained very careful and structured about telling others as I didn’t want fuss, drama or negative things said to me while I was still trying to get my head round it myself. When I got my op date, I told some people that I was having a hysterectomy but didn’t say why. After my hysterectomy I told a few more people why, but I won’t be going totally public on it till I’ve finished my treatment. That’s what’s been right for me - what’s right for you may be different. But I just wanted to say that you don’t have to tell everyone, and certainly not right away.
Yes....I also noticed I seem fine until I talk to someone.
I was smiling today...in a great mood (I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer 2 days ago) and they are going to the hysterscopy on the womb on Monday.....
And when I went in the meat market today and an acquaintence there asked how I was...I said horrible....have BC and going to see about my Uterus Monday...all of a sudden I was crying...I had no idea.
So I get it.....seems usual to me.....its a big pill to swallow to be told you have Cancer.
I think I am in a little bit of denial because I haven't talked to any Surgeon yet....and I try to stay busy.
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