Hello all,
I feel a bit lost and lonely and thought a forum here might be the place for me to air my worries and ask questions. I hope someone can help.
so I’m 43 and have had my latest mirena coil in for around 2 years now. I previously had one in for 5 years. The previous one I barely had any periods and the new one, once it settled down from the fitting again my periods stopped. Then around October 2021 I started to have bleeding days, not periods as such odd days here and then. Then spotting then periods but they’re so random. My gp said I should have bleeding at all with the coil. I’m bleeding roughly 10-12 days and cycle is 19-21 days to next cycle with spotting all the time in between.
I’ve had triple swabs and all fine as expected. Bloods are ok but my white bloods were low once and before thanksgiving low iron.
fast forward to now and I’ve gone private as wait times locally are long here. I was referred for an ultrasound nhs but have my first consultation with gynae (private) on the 28th.
im worried most not just with the bleeding but also the discharge, tmi sorry, but it’s brown all the time and smells bad. Like I said no infection and unusual for me. I’ve smelled myself through my clothes and felt so self conscious I’ve had to go home when out and things like that. I’m clean and tidy so it’s not like I need a shower it’s just ‘not right’. On Friday I had totally random lightning crotch pain out of nowhere too.
my other worry is that I lost both parents to cancer, my mum at 45 (lung) and dad at 57 (unknown primary but likely colon). I heard about lynch syndrome but only recently heard of this. Does anyone know about this and whether I could be tested?
its hard not to let my mind runaway but it’s just being going on now since around October and it feels like it’s getting worse.
Thanks for reading. Xx
hi and a warm welcome to our spot in the Online Community. You'll find a lovely group of supportive ladies here and one of us should be able to answer your questions.
Hopefully your Ultrasound will show up something and they'll get more tests done.
I've attached a link to some details about Lynch syndrome for you to take a look at, just click on the link. You can also type Lynch Syndrome into the search bar at the top of the page to find out more details.
Come back if you've got any questions, someone should be able to help.
Sending welcoming hugs, Barb xx
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Hi Cheekydeeky, welcome! Are you absolutely sure about the NHS wait times in your area? In most parts of the UK, wait times where cancer is a possibility are typically not long at all - and if you do require further tests, surgery, treatment or testing it might be more beneficial to stay within the NHS as everything will be properly documented and linked/synchronised. I saw my GP in Sep 2021, was diagnosed in November, and had a hysterectomy in January. I had genetic counselling and preliminary testing for Lynch syndrome but that was negative. I’ve also had a BRCA test and am awaiting the result. I did consider going private early on but my CNS nurse advised me against it.
Hi Cheekydeeky,
I had a hysterectomy at the end of May last year. The results showed that I may have Lynch Syndrome as it came back with loss of MSH6 expression in my tumour (sorry for the technical term). It is a genetic inherited condition which you have a 50/50 chance of inheriting if your mother or father have the gene.
I was seen at a specialist clinic in March this year and I had to give a history of my close relatives. This was Mum, Dad, Brothers and Sisters, Aunts and Uncles and Grandparents. As there is a strong family history of Cancer in my family they suggested a blood test and I am awaiting the results which are due any time soon. The cancers they were interested in were Pancreatic, Bowel and Stomach. I also had an uncle who passed with lung cancer but this was not relevant to testing for Lynch Syndrome. I was also told that if they do not find Lynch Syndrome they may try to look into other reasons for me having had cancer. Not sure what they will look at but have to wait for the results from this test first.
The lovely ladies on this forum are so supportive and will try to answer any questions you may have. It is impossible not to worry about what is happening with you but there is support via phone or online. I found talking to people on this forum helped me a lot.
Maybe try asking the consultant at your appointment and see if he can give you any more information. I wish you all the very best with your tests. Take Care. xx
Oh thank you so much for the link Barb! I didn’t even think to search on this site about it.
i appreciate your reply and will trying about doing the profile info.
i guess you queries though are based on more personal experiences than leaflets - I mean my mum having lung cancer at 45 is certainly not the norm At 45, so it’s looking for similarities and for what I’m experiencing, in the same vein.
thanks again xx
Thanks for your reply. I waited a month for my gynae referral appt and no reply so called them and was told it was 17 week wait (I’m in Bucks), I guess I’m not classed as high enough priority from the gp perspective (perhaps 43 is youngish against guidelines?) but I feel worried nonetheless. I’m really glad you were seen so quickly, that speed is amazing and I hope you are doing well? May I ask, did they test you because of family history or did you ask for it?
Thanks x x
Thanks for your reply, sounds like you have lots of investigations going on to you help you so I hope all is well with your results. Do you know if I can ask for the test you had or does it have to be offered?
i just have such a feeling of dread and it’s hard to not put aside my mum and dads cancer and look at it just for what this is, unknown at this point.
i have a long list of info and questions for my consultant!
Thanks for your reply Xx
I had my test because my of being diagnosed with cancer after originally being told I had fibroids. Luckily I opted to have a hysterectomy anyway because of problems I thought were to do with menopause. (I am 57, so was told that I was past that!) I had bleeding and spotting almost every day for 13 months before deciding to see my GP and in the last couple of months before seeing them a pink discharge intermittently.
My cancer was Grade1 Stage 1a so no further treatment needed. My trust (I am in Hampshire) automatically tested me when I had my op. I did not know this until I was called back to be told my results. They had only been testing for 9 months before my result was found for possible Lynch syndrome and in saying that I was the 1st person to have come back with a possible positive result.
I think you can talk to your GP about genetic testing but I am not sure how it works. Cancer Research UK have 'Genetic testing for cancer risk' info on their website which explains things better than I can. I hope this gives you some useful information. xx
Hi Cheekydeeky, I had a hysterectomy due to being diagnosed with endometrial cancer probable grade 1 stage 1a, and my Trust (Hampshire) automatically did Lynch pre-testing as part of the histology. The speed of being seen was because my GP requested the two week pathway.
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