Hi everyone. I was diagnosed with womb cancer November last year and had MRI and CT scans prior to a radical hysterectomy in December. I was grade 3 stage 1a after all the biopsies and seem to have healed well. Someone I know had an op for bowel cancer about a month after mine and as far as I knew was doing well but struggling with the effects of chemo. It's my youngest sisters sister in law. My sister told me on Friday that her cancer has progressed and its now terminal. The news has really knocked me off my perch. I'm back to being as anxious as I was when I was waiting to find out my prognosis and don't feel able to say that to my sister as she and her family need someone and somewhere to unload. I'm writing this post more to get the emotion I have about it out than perhaps anything else. I've had my first check up and they were really pleased with my situation so I know the feelings are out of proportion. Here's hoping leaving this here and time will lessen how anxious I am.
Hi TobyandLottie. Welcome back, if I remember rightly your op was around Christmas wasn't it? It's good to hear that you've healed well.
I'm so sorry to read that you're having to hide your emotions from your family again. Cancer is a horrible indiscriminate disease and once you've had it it never ever really leaves you. So many people, when told you've had a clear check-up, immediately think "well that's all done and dusted" and file it in the back of their mind but for you, it opens a whole can of worms again when you heard about your sister's sister-in-law's prognosis. The other thing is some cancers are highly aggressive, thankfully ours isn't normally (Mine turned out to be grade 3 serous, that's why I worry so much!)
My love your feelings aren't out of proportion at all, I'm sending you a great big hug to reassure you. If my husband hears me talking on the phone to a friend and I mention cancer he'll say to me I'm being a drama queen again! I can't get through to him we all live with a little niggling fear it'll come back. I'm now a year on from my surgery and had a few unexplained chest pains recently so my GP sent me for X-ray which was clear, but he's reiterated if I'm still worried to go back to him. My dear hubby said I'd wasted his time!
Come back here and unload whenever you want, it's cathartic! I couldn't have done without this group - my hubby (of over 40 years) has the empathy of a plank and that's being unkind to wood!
Sending big hugs, Barb xx
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