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Hi Kim, Your mum is really lucky to have a supportive daughter like you. I can think of nothing that has made me feel more vulnerable than my cancer diagnosis. (it feels funny simply writing the word). Yet, your mum does need your support so much. Simply be there for her if she wants to talk and offer reassurance that's realistic. Some of her favourite foods (that she considers a treat) would be lovely ... her favourite biscuits with tea, some special meals on occasion. A small bouquet of 'welcome home' flowers or a plant would be so appreciated or a few mindless magazines to divert her thoughts somewhat. Honestly, just caring as you do will show and that's the greatest welcome you could ever give her. I'm a mum and I know it would mean the world to me.

Ms. Muggles xo

Hi Kim, I am the mum I was diagnosed in June and had a radical Hysterectomy 8th July,My Daughter was with me when diagnosed she tried to be strong but I could see how difficult it was for her ..I was the strong one so to speak , being very pragmatic I just take whats thrown at me and 'deal with it' ( I am  am 65 my daughter is 45 ) I think it's the little things that have helped me, just knowing that she is there ,we are close and I find it very easy to talk to her, and be open about how i'm feeling., but iv still got the independent streak  I will do it myself before asking for help !  I also have a son of 49  ( i was a child bride lol) and he has taken it badly, and has been quite distressed by it all, and was on the phone every day wanting 'to do' things for me, which is nice but it sometimes felt like too much 'fuss'  I ended up having to 'share ' the trips to appointments with him as he wanted to know everything and speak the consultants, Don't get me wrong it is/was appreciated as you do need an extra pair of ears at these meetings as you don't take everything in. though it was a balancing act as I have a partner to consider too....My surgery was Robotic Laparoscopy, so recovery was quicker than the full surgical procedure so I was up and around quicker than I expected, the thing is not to forget that the external appearance after this type of  surgery is deceiving compared to the severity of the internal surgery.,,,, My appetite was poor for a good few weeks, so I agree the treats and snacks  kept me going sometimes . I could only manage 'light meals' like fish and chicken on a very small plate.  This week I started my chemotherapy so things are moving along and it's just another hurdle to cross I will have hair loss to deal with  ( though this will depends on the type of drugs used as not everyone loses their hair. ) I do believe family struggle more with a cancer diagnosis as they feel so helpless, all they can do is give love and support and that to me is everything I need to get me through this. I wish you well Good luck and Take Care. X

Oh my eyes filled with tears as I read your post. Don't worry about the rambling, believe ne we've all done it! Whether we hear the dreaded cancer diagnosis when with someone or alone (as I was due to Covid) it's like someone dumps a brick wall on you. Numbness, anxiety, stress levels skyrocket. The fact you've joined this group and other groups I was going to suggest means you'll get support from all of us who know how you're feeling right now. But you'll realise that you're not alone on this scary journey.

No particular diet is recommended after a hysterectomy as far as I'm aware but you would want to avoid constipation and your Mum won't want to strain so plenty of fresh fruit. A few treats would be nice - favourite cake and biccies.

It might be an idea to get a litter pick stick if you don't already have one as we have to avoid bending and lifting. I fully agree with the other ladies suggestions.

It’s always helpful to others if you write a little something (or a lot) about yourself and your mum's journey to date. You can enter it into your profile (click on your username and select “Profile”) It’s helpful to other members with a similar diagnosis who can then hopefully answer your questions. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. You can amend or update it at any time. If you’re not sure what to write, just click on my username.

If you want to ask any of us any questions please come back and do so. There's always someone around and we can offer a shoulder to cry on, a hand to hold or listen to a rant, we’re here for you.

It might also be a good idea to download this booklet Understanding Womb (Endometrial) Cancer. I found it invaluable on my journey. 

Click on the link I’ve created to find out more information covering diagnosis and treatments for Womb cancer.

It’s always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear. It's free to call on 0808 808 00 00  8am to 8pm, 7 days a week. Have a look to see what is available by Clicking here .

There is also an Ask an Expert section, but you should allow two working days for replies from our expert team.

Sending you welcoming hugs, B xx