Feeling low and emotional

1. Hi I really do hope your ok as I was the same stage as you and it had the same impact mentally I advise  you to contact your gp Monday the will get you I touch with a councillor and give u Some anti depressant this helped me a lot I now feel mentally stronger not quite there but am sure one day I will be sending you best wishes the mental impact a cancer diagnosis has is unbelievable I wasn’t prepared for it plus covid doesn’t help the fact u are on your own sheilding we are all here virtually if u need advice xxxx

Hello FlorrieMcWorrie, 

I had an online chat with the support team on this website and found that helped.  I also spoke to a counsellor where I work over the phone and being able to talk to someone about how I was really feeling has been a godsend. I had a good cry while I was talking. I would definitely say you need to talk to someone neutral that way you don't have to put on an act. The counsellor suggested writing an emotion diary. You can put down in words how you are feeling. She also said to include just one positive and one negative emotion a day.  ( Mine have included laughing at the antics of some children playing and just sitting with my cat). It may be something that could help as it made me not think of just the negatives thoughts that were going on in my head.

I wish you all the very best,

Amycdi xx

Hi Florrie,

I really believe that this Covid business has affected an awful lot of people. We are shut up with our own thoughts far too much. There is nothing to look forward to, and nothing to do. I feel fed up, but I wouldn't say I'm clinically depressed. I just want my life back!!! I was quite worried about my grand daughter after the first lock down. She stayed a week with us just for a change, but was very withdrawn and quiet.

You have had all this to deal with and getting over a big operation. Give yourself time and I would certainly get help as the other ladies have suggested. xxxx

Hello Florrie, I'm so sorry you find yourself feeling so low when you feel you should be celebrating. Quite a few ladies here have mentioned how low they feel after getting the good news no further treatment is needed. Like all of us you've been through a lot of worry and stress so it might be a good idea to take a look at both the Life after cancer and also Emotional issues forums. You might find them helpful, we're all here for you in meantime.

It’s always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear. It's free to call on 0808 808 00 00  8am to 8pm, 7 days a week. Have a look to see what is available by Clicking here .

Sending comforting hugs, Barb xx 

Thank you for your reply. I’m relieved that it’s not just me who’s feeling like this.

Thank you  

Thank you for your reply, I appreciate it. Hope you’re doing ok

FlorriMcWorrie,

you are not alone. The emotional impact of a cancer diagnosis is something that I never expected myself either. A cancer diagnosis, plus surgery, during a pandemic is enough to make anyone feel traumatised. I too, was found to be grade 1 & no further treatment needed, so felt I should be happy that I was cancer free, but was so low.
I’m part of a very close knit family but couldn’t really tell them how I felt, as I didn’t want to upset them, so like you put on an act when I spoke to them. My husband however could see me struggling. After several weeks of crying for no reason, I was diagnosed with depression.  My GP has been great, I’m now on medication and booked in for counselling. After talking to my Talking Changes team, I soon realised that I wasn’t a freak or going crazy, but suffering from depression due to a traumatic event. 
I would let your GP know how you’re feeling or even contact your specialist nurse, I’m sure they can guide you in the right direction for support.

take care, you’re not alone, sending hugs, Andi x

Thank you so much Andi, I appreciate your reply and I hope you’re doing ok.

Hi Florrie. was thinking of you - have you contacted your GP yet?

Big hugs Barb xx