Depression

Hello , I believe that depression is something that can hit us anytime. You have had a lot to deal with and it’s important to get the right support, have you by any chance contacted the support line or your Gp or oncology team about how your feeling I would hope they can reach out and arrange for you to more support. Yes I know zoom therapy isn’t easy i am currently getting that myself after PTSD really kicked in during lockdown and getting unnecessary pressure put on me by other people which made anxiety and the stress really effect me but i was also glad that i can reach out and have the support both one to one and group bases. I understand that your upcoming results from scans and radiotherapy is nerve wreaking but i hope you get the right news and given the chance to also explain how you feel. It’s difficult for those around us sometimes to understand that its a trauma what your going though and it often comes on near treatment ends i think we are just so overwhelmed with just getting thought the treatment that it hits us afterwards, all the questions has it worked, what next etc.

fingers crossed for your results and sending you a gentle bear hug ,  and remember we all understand here. 

I’m right there with you Gloo.

I was completely overwhelmed by my emotions after my surgery. When I thought I’d be feeling happy that I was cancer free, I was unable to cope at all. At one point I felt I couldn’t go on, and contemplated dying. Luckily my husband, who is my absolute rock, was frightened when he realised just how low I felt, and urged me to phone my GP. I’m so glad I did, she was so supportive and helpful. I’m on a mild antidepressant, which helps me to get a good nights sleep, and this is helping so so much. I’m also booked in for counselling too. After talking to my GP and the talking changes counsellor, I’ve now realised that I’ve been through a huge trauma, which is difficult enough, but all this during a pandemic, it’s understandable that anyone has a breakdown or feels they can’t cope.

Sorry if I’m waffling on about myself, but thought it might help you to know you’re not alone. You’ve taken the most important step by telling someone how you’re feeling. I’m sure that if your family were aware just how low you’re feeling, they’d be right by your side. I’m sure they can already tell that you’re struggling. If you feel that you can’t talk to your family, then talk to your GP or your care team, I’m sure they’ll point you in the right direction to get the help you need.

Sending huge hugs and letting you know, you will get through this. Xx

Hi there hope you are ok! Depression hit me about 3 weeks Ago like a brick. I think it had slowey bein creeping up on me I was reluctant to get help but i did as I have kids. The gp refered me to a councillor I had my first appointment it went well also started on some antidepressants so far so good on them. I also have started to eat well exercise a little walks and taking kids out not using the car as much that helped. You will be ok your family will understand it’s perfectly normal to feel like this threw cancer treatment it’s a traumatic experience wishing you well for the future xxx

Hi I'm so sorry to hear how down you are feeling. Like the others say contact your GP who can prescribe something to help and perhaps refer you to a counsellor.

In the meantime it might be good to take a look at the Emotional Issues forum. You might get some help there too.

Sending you big hugs, Barb xx

Thank you all for your kind messages. I have been unable to focus on anything - not even reading or going on the Macmillan site. I just "cabbaged" and wallowed in self pity! Not good!. I should have made the effort to check for any replies - Sorry everyone - I am overwhelmed by your kind and helpful advice and for sharing your own feelings. It does help knowing I am not alone and there is light at the end of this very dark tunnel. I have had a couple of zoom sessions with a counsellor who volunteers with a local cancer charity and I am trying to take on board the tips he gives to help with anxiety etc. There is no magic cure - we all know that! - but hopefully time and coming out of prison - better known as lock down! will help. Big virtual hugs to everyone. X

Gloo

Thank you all for your kind messages. I have been unable to focus on anything - not even reading or going on the Macmillan site. I just "cabbaged" and wallowed in self pity! Not good!. I should have made the effort to check for any replies - Sorry everyone - I am overwhelmed by your kind and helpful advice and for sharing your own feelings. It does help knowing I am not alone and there is light at the end of this very dark tunnel. I have had a couple of zoom sessions with a counsellor who volunteers with a local cancer charity and I am trying to take on board the tips he gives to help with anxiety etc. There is no magic cure - we all know that! - but hopefully time and coming out of prison - better known as lock down! will help. Big virtual hugs to everyone. X

Gloo

Hi gloo

Theres nothing wrong with closing yourself in to deal with what you are going thru as long as it does its job by helping you get strong.

Talking to people who know what are going thru is sometimes easier than talking to family because we don't want to worry them.

That wall we put around us gives us time to deal absorb and soak up everything but don't keep that wall up to long or you will find it's also keeping people out that care about you.

Keep your mind busy and before you know it we will be on the end of this pandemic.

Stay safe gloo and keep your mind strong 

Hi. Please see reply posted to mrsBJH as applies to all.

Please see reply to MRSBJH as applies to all.

Please see reply to MRSBJH as applies to all.