Frightened

Hi Jacks61 

Sorry to hear you have some bad news and initially it is such a shock and a scary time. My mom was diagnosed 6 weeks ago and it's all been one hell of a roller coaster of emotions. All I can say is once you know what your dealing with and the doctors give you a plan of treatment it's not as scary.  My mom had her hysterectomy on Tuesday and is back home now back to happy self. All the women on her ward were all in the same boat and the strength they all had was amazing. 

And also what I've found out is you never know how strong you are till you have to be...my mom was such a wuss prior to all this but she's faced all the poking and prodding and she even has said herself it's not as scary as she thought it would be. 

You have definitely found the right forum to use to talk about how your feeling and advice, the women on here are amazing and will definitely put your mind at ease like they have done for many other women.

Sending you a hug and wishing you well 

Xxx

Dear smileshigh

thank you so much for replying .i am very glad your mum is on the road to recovery 

i also am the biggest wuss going ,so I am taking your mums words on board .

my children are all really scared even though they are all grown up and it’s hard to see them so scared as well .im waiting to see what stage I am at after a mri and other tests

which is really worrying I’m just a reck at the moment 

thank you again so much 

xxx

I'm very happy to reply to you as it helps SO much and if I can help you I  anyway I will gladly do so...

My mom is on the road to recovery yes but as she was diagnosed with a serous carcinoma which from what I've red is slightly rarer and treated differently so now she's had her hysterectomy that will all be sent to histology to see if she needs chemo/radio which again is another few weeks wait but we are all prepares for that but praying it may only be radiotherapy : )!  

You mentioned your children... and yes it's been really tough for me and my sister prior to her diagnosis so between having a biospy and the results everytime I saw her I cried which now I find alittle silly as I didn't even know if she had cancer...but now we all know what it is honestly it has made things easier and now we are back to laughing and taking the mick!  Obviously we are still waiting on the final grade and stage and it's a very anxious time but it's amazing the strength you find. The hardest bit I have found is telling my son's (10 and 6) although I haven't used the c word they know nan needed an op and they have dealt with it great they even helped take her plasters off her keyhole marks yesterday  and my 6 year old asked if her 'gina' hurt! 

I really hope you have a good support around you and can speak about your feelings and if not this site will definitely help with all that... 

Just keep communicating and cry and scream if you have to get it all out!!!  

xxx

Dear smileshigh

Y our mom sounds so strong and brave and thank you for telling me how you and your sister are coping .we haven’t told my grandchildren yet but will do when I go for the op but not cancer word don’t want them scared as well.

my daughters keep crying every time I see them but my sons gone very quiet .

but they are being a great support and work have been amazing but I’m still like stop this train I want to get off and go and hide 

but talking to you has helped so thanks 

xxx

She's a tough one I'll give her that but according to my dad she's had a few wobbles but not in front of us which I understand...as for the daughter son thing my aunt had breast cancer 4 years ago and whilst her daughter was amazing and would talk about it her son at the time just as acted like nothing happened! As for the grandkids I think if I said the c word to my eldest he would freak but I'm unsure how we will explain if she needs chemo and looses her hair but I'm sure we will deal with it 

I have to say his site has been amazing I've red majority of the (womb) forums and it's really put my mind at ease and I've past information onto my mom as she doesn't even know how to turn a computer on let alone write on it and post stuff she's only 62 aswel so hardly too old to learn but she won't... so it may be worth telling your daughters to look on here and read others stories! Also I'm a sucker for Dr Google and I was soooooo tempted to get onto it but the advice of the ladies is don't and I havnt 

Hi 

im sure your mom has had a few wobbles but she has your dad as well as her amazing daughter.i lost my husband 2 years ago suddenly out of the blue he was only 54 ,and I feel I really need him right now .im 58 that seems old but I’ve been told it isn’t .

this site is really good I have been on dr goggle and read things I wish I had t as it’s made me worse but I won’t do it anymore 

I will mention to my daughters about looking on here I have to say that today you have really made a difference to my outlook 

so I thank you I really hope that your mom goes from strength to strength is she in much pain or is it bearable .they tell me I’m going to have the robotic arm surgery. Think it’s cause a large lady it’s a bit less risky but because I’m bigger the thought of surgery is all the more terrifying.but the drs say it’s fine so I have to hope and pray 

thanks again 

xxx

I'm so sorry to hear about the passing of your husband and I can imagine you feel as though you need him more then ever now...you sound like you have loving children though that care so much about their mom so you have a good network around you

I've spoken to me mom just and she's already walking around the house and have had 2 showers since her op on Tuesday it's amazing how well the body copes after. 

Yes it was mentioned to my mom about the robotic surgery but in the end they decided not to maybe it is because she is diabetic and overweight I don't know but like I say her recovery so far has been amazing.

Please keep in touch and let us know how your doing and please don't hesitate to ask anything x

Hi Jackie61, I too was terrified and a cancer diagnosis is frightening.  You will be on a journey that is going to involve scans, surgery and depending on grade and stage you may also have other treatments.  I found the physical/ medical side doable but I have struggled with the emotional and psychological side.  The ladies here will advice and give you marvellous support - we have all been here -  what I can say that you will get through this, not saying it's a walk in a park but I was a big wuss and I'm taking small steps and it is getting better.  Try and re focus on things you like to do now, and when the journey begins remember you are not alone, and there is great support for you here. Take care xx Dawn

Thank you and wow your mom is doing well .i will keep in touch and thanks again 

sending healing vibes to your mom 

take care 

xx

Hi dawn 

thank you for replying 

the support here is amazing .I am just being a wuss I know but everything is happening and it’s all so scary 

I am waiting for the results of tests and mri and I keep over things .i had a cervical smear test that was clear but they found cells in the womb and everything has gone mad since then 

I am just praying it will all be ok 

thank you 

jackie

xx