Hi
Does anyone else feel pressured to do thing just because they have this bloody disease ?
I know everyone means we'll but I just want to yell STOP I will get over this and when I do I'll sort my own stuff out. Was getting bathroom done but decided to leave it but my dad told my sister to sort it for me, as if, it's my house my decision on what I do and I don't want the pressure of dealing with the mess at the moment.
I can't afford it either and although work is great with me we are really quite so I'm know worried about my job too. I've been looking today at the bathroom stuff and just feel like I'm doing it quick to please them not me.
Then hubby saying if chemo makes you ill you will need the bathroom so leave it just for know as we only have one toilet which is logical but sister going when you have your operation u will need it doing ahhhhh they all mean well but I don't do well when I'm pressured by others and I like to do it my way.
Know hubby started saying we need to get a TV in the bedroom in case u r ill. If I'm too ill to get down stairs I will be to ill to watch bloody TV. We have never had a TV in the bedroom.
I had a bad week last week very tearful but got some better news on Monday so it lifted me up been in a great positive mood all week know tonight I want to cry because they are treating me differently. I'm so mad with them. I keep telling them not to. I've got over quite a bit health wise over the years so why are they treating me differently this time. I'm not stupid I know it's going to be though but I'll deal with it when and if it happens. Feed up with Dr telling me I'm unique because of this with my other medical problems but not unique enough that I dont have to get up and go to work like others
I just want to still be ME. Thanks for reading my rant. Take care all x
Hi Trish263,
I am sorry you’re having a difficult time with some of your family members and what they feel is best for you. I’m sure they mean well, but I appreciate your frustration.
I wonder whether you could sit them down and explain that you are grateful for their concern, but you just want to be you and want to be treated as you were prior to your diagnosis. If I find it hard to say something then I often write it in a text. That way I can read over it and make sure it sounds ok and that I’ve included everything before I send it.
The added worry with work must be difficult too.
It is quite normal to be on a bit of an emotional rollercoaster to start with. I know it won’t fix everything, but try to be kind to yourself. Allow yourself time to rest and process your diagnosis if need be. If you feel as though talking to someone who understands will help, then the Macmillan team are great and can be reached on the phone number below.
Take care and feel free to message any time.
Hi Trish263,
You are entitled to a stress day 
I hope you’re less stressed now though.
