An update on me

Heya Disneydoll85

How are things going now, anything looking a little better at all?

If you browse the forum, you'll find all sorts of stories of spouses cheating on cancer patients. The other half go through a lot just as we do, and unfortunately a lot of relationships just don't survive for a number of reasons. 

Kicking him out was such a strong and brave move on your part, so well done for taking that step and valuing yourself as being worth more than he was giving you!

It's not going to be easy for anyone with 4 kids under 8 during this lockdown, moreso for you with the confusion the kids will be feeling. It's good that you recognise that, but I very much doubt that they hate you, even if they say they do in a wee fit of rage. As you say, they're just confused at the moment and don't know what's going on. 

Have you had a look around to see if there are resources that help a parent explain another parent no longer living at home? There are all sorts of things out there to help you explain things to kids. I saw a really nice one today about how to explain the virus to children, and it's illustrated by the same person who illustrated The Gruffalo.

And FYI, wine (or whatever your tipple is) is absolutely an essential grocery at a time like this. Just remember that you need looked after at the moment too. So once the kids are in bed, take some time for yourself and a bit of self care. The washing, cleaning, etc can wait for another day!

Lass

Xx

What a truly awful situation, and all on top of having cancer. It seems very unfair. I can't imagine what reserves of strength and courage you are having to find to get through this.

Your kids still love you very much indeed, I'm quite sure. I hope that - if appropriate - you are able to share looking after them with their dad, as it would be an awful lot to take on by yourself, particularly in these very difficult circumstances, and with your health as it is.