Partner diagnosed with non-seminoma TC with metastasis- support and help

Hello everyone,

My long-term partner has been diagnosed with non-seminomatous testicular cancer. A subclavicular lymph node biopsy showed a mix of 50% embryonal carcinoma, 45% teratoma, and 5% yolk sac tumour. It has metastasised to his lymph nodes, specifically the retroperitoneal lymph nodes, and they have also mentioned involvement near the diaphragm.

He started 4xBEP chemotherapy just three days after diagnosis. I’ve read that even in metastatic cases there are still good cure rates, which gives me some hope. Everything has been such a whirlwind of emotions, and I feel very overwhelmed. The doctors have said he is tolerating the chemotherapy well so far.

We were long-distance for some time and had been making plans to be together again when this happened. He is currently receiving treatment in Singapore.

On top of that, I lost my brother to leukemia a little over a year ago. Things seemed to be going well until they suddenly weren’t, and this is bringing back a lot of that stress and fear.

I’m looking for advice on how best to support him during treatment. Anything that worked for you and might be helpful when the chemo side effects start. I’m travelling to be with him so I can support him in person, and I would really appreciate hearing from others who have supported a partner through something similar

I didn’t know where else to turn for advice. The more I read online, the more overwhelmed I feel, and it can get quite isolating.

Thank you so much!