My father has been in hospital for almost 2 weeks. He had been having stomach pain, wind, heartburn, indigestion, bloating, loss of weight, loss of appetite, constipation, diarrhoea, dark stools and feelings of nausea and some sickness. He had a CT scan that showed a blockage near the bowel and then underwent a surgical camera procedure. He had issues with his breathing and aspirated fluid and vomit during the procedure and developed pneumonia. We are waiting for his biopsy results but have been told that he had a large mass in his stomach. He was on IV medication and a syringe driver for a week and then they started him on soft foods. He started to become confused and is now hallucinating and I've been told that he has delirium. His inflammatory markers were raised during recent tests, which indicated an infection and he was supposed to have antibiotics but that hasn't happened yet. Due to covid restrictions I haven't been able to visit since last Sunday but have been keeping in touch with him by phone. For the last 3 days he has been convinced that the hospital staff are keeping him hostage and are trying to kill him and he is constantly asking me to go and get him to bring him home. I don't know what to do for the best because I am worried that if I do visit him and them leave him there that that will make him worse but on the other hand I feel guilty for not visiting and I don't know what to say to him when he rings and says all of these things. I try talking to him calmly and try to talk about other things, which works for a while but then it starts again. I'm so worried about him.
Hi Scarlet21 and a warm welcome to the online community
I'm sorry to read how much your father has been going through recently and it's natural to wonder what is the right thing to do in the circumstances.
I hope you don't mind me suggesting that you might find it helpful to join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group as it's a safe and supportive place to discuss your worries and emotions with others who have someone living with an incurable cancer. If this is something that you'd like to do then clicking on the link I've created will take you straight there where you can join and post your question. To save you typing it all out again just copy and paste it from here into your new post.
Do come back and let us all know the results of your father's biopsy and I'm sure the other members of the group will be happy to share their treatment experiences with you.
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I'm sorry that it has taken me so long to reply. Life has been very surreal over the past month. My father eventually received his biopsy results on Christmas Eve. He had non Hodgkin's lymphoma, which came as a shock. The haematologists had decided to try him on a course of chemotherapy, due to start on December 30th but unfortunately he took a turn for the worse on Boxing Day and he passed away. Boxing Day afternoon.
Oh I'm so sorry to read about your dad's passing Scarlet21. It must have been such a shock to you that it all happened so quickly.
Sending a virtual (((hug)))
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