Hello, my wife has stomach cancer. Is anyone else struggling to be strong?

Welcome to our group! There are lots of lovely people who can give you support! I had a partial gastrectomy six years ago and now eat and drink much as before. 
I wrote a Blog of my treatment and recovery which you can read if you click on my profile. 
There will be a treatment plan for your wife but do post any questions you have!

Wishing your wife good luck! 

Hi sorry to hear of your wife’s diagnosis my husband was diagnosed last year it’s the most horrendous time it’s like bottom of your world has fallen out he to had trouble with the blockage and was unable to eat last October he had the partial op and has since gained 3 stone along with palitive chemotherapy he doing really well at the moment so there is hope please keep positive sending you both positive vibes wishing you well on this journey 

Thank you for your reply and kind words. I just wish it was this time 2 weeks in the future. Its been quite a shock especially as my daughter was diagnosed with a parotid tumour in February last year. Its just seems to be one thing after another. 

I have GAD which was diagnosed 25+ years ago, but have been stable until last year. Just feel like everything is going wrong for our family now. 

Oh I am so sorry! That’s a lot to cope with! It’s very hard to be strong when you keep being hit with one thing after another. 
I found MacMillan a big support and if you have a Maggie’s centre near you, they were so good to me and my family when I was diagnosed. 
You will get through this and your wife will get treatment, surgery is a really good option for stomach cancer. A partial gastrectomy is easier to recover from too! So hold on to hope! Xx

Hi Jac

It's just the waiting and the unknown that is worrying. I overthink everything, especially nowadays, and its very hard to focus on anything else just now. My wife, also known by Jac, is much stronger than me and although she was sick again for first time in 4 days, she feels more positive today. She has been there for me in the last year helping me with my mood and anxiety, as well as being there for my daughter at the same time. I am now doing the same for her, comforting her, looking after her etc but sometimes have a meltdown when I'm on my own. The next few days are going to be hard, she goes back into ERI tomorrow afternoon, and surgery palnned for Tuesday. We have had a lot of kind words and support from neighbours, friends and relatives but I feel alone in this just now and I think she does too. 

These are the worst times and I remember the terror I felt before the surgery and also before I started treatment! Once you start down the road you find ways to cope! And even little moments of happiness in amongst it!

The support of family and friends is immeasurable and you realise how many good people there are in the world! 
You will get through this and will look back and wonder how you managed it! 
This too will pass! X

Hi Jac

My wife is now home and trying to adapt to her new way of eating. She is doing very well and I’m so proud of her. I am ashamed to say I did have a cry in front of her today, and told her how difficult it has been for me, knowing full well she has been going through the hard part. I thought when she got home my anxiety would miraculously disappear, how stupid am I. I’m doing all I can to help her, making meals, looking after medication etc but just cannot stop worrying about the both of us. 

So glad to hear that your wife is through the operation and is now recovering! I think it’s very hard watching someone you love have a serious illness.  You are constantly on high alert and you are dealing with your own emotions! Don’t be too hard on yourself! It will get easier!