Lonely

Hi, I just wanted you to know that you’re not alone and it’s not easy being told you have cancer no matter what form of cancer you have. You are doing amazing!! It is a scary time,  I myself have just gone through chemo, surgery and radiotherapy for breast cancer and people say to me oh that’s great it’s all done with now! but they don’t realise the emotional toll of it too. I hope this helps sending lots of love x 

Thank you so much and I’m so sorry you’re going through all that! You have def helped me & im so grateful. Your correct the emotional side is terrible that’s the bit people don’t get at all! How are you getting on now? Xx

hi, I’m doing great now thank you for asking. I finished all my treatment in the beginning of July, so Just trying to get back to a bit of normality now. But I felt just like you said scary and lonely to begin with because it is a lot to take and get your head around, but it will get better. I hope you’re feeling okay today? it is good to talk to other people who have or are going through cancer as they know how it feels. When I was first diagnosed, i did feel like a rabbit in headlights, and it was scary your not sure how you should be feeling/being but I did find it got easier as I went through my cancer journey. Just remember you’re doing great and you have got this! Have a lovely day xx

Hi CheekyCharlie I know exactly where you are coming from.  I got so fed up of people saying to me it is ONLY skin cancer.  Yes I understand it is curable and other cancers are far more serious BUT it is still cancer.  The operations and scaring etc we go through is very traumatic.  I was 73 years old when I had my 2 operations on my face and they looked horrendous for a while.  I am fine now and scars are minimal, but during the healing process I was very down too and didn't like going out as I looked a mess.  This firum is brilliant and it helped me through my darkest times and hope you will get the same help and encouragement.  Here to chat should you need to and good luck x

Hi Harlyn it’s me that has the skin cancer, CheekyCharlie replied giving a right good boost! Thats what I keep getting it’s only skin cancer you will be fine but it’s the way it makes you feel when they say it, like it’s not real & doesn’t matter. I’m a week into chemo cream now for my face & chest and im wondering when my face fully breaks will they realise how hard it is! Its taken me a few weeks to even write anything on here but I’m so glad I did now thanks to you & CheekyCharlie xx

• Hi Harlan it sounds like you’ve been through a tough time too, but yes, like you say this forum is great for us all to get together and chat with people who understand the things that we are all going through. I hope you’re doing okay too. Well I’m glad you did write on here Chev it’s been lovely talking to you too. I hope you both are doing  ok today. Take care xx 

Agree

My experience too

Everyone downplays it and surprised when you burst into tears

Yet psychological impact is huge and backed up by evidence

I had surgery on forhead and neck disfiguring

Post op care is scary too.

Am only 2 months in

Im

so sorry your going through this too! I’ve now had surgery on my nose, a suspect area removed from my elbow and my chest! It annoys me that no one understands the mental impact. Usually I’m ok I can hide my nose with some make up but now I’m using chemo cream I can’t so not only have I got my nose for people to stare at I know have my skin breaking out in roaring red patches to stare at too. I’d rather just not go out if I’m honest but I’ve got to work or I don’t get paid x