Newly diagnosed with prostate cancer

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Hi everyone.

finally after a two year pause I’ve been diagnosed with cancer of the prostate. 6 low level for the time being and hopefully for a long time.
BUT I do find myself taking it to the extreme of what if ……

The usual questions bouncing around in my head.

sex. Which treatments should I do and hope to retain some kind of sex life.
but with the nagging feeling in my head that I don’t think my wife could remain loyal in a no sex marriage having experienced her betrayal 2 years ago so should I watch and wait continuing with the active surveillance until the last minute.

of I have the op now would it give me a chance to have a sex life as it’s on my right side. Save the left nerves and maybe a good sex life.

RT… wow if it fails there is no operation. Or am I wrong.

being only 57 I see others are in the same predicament and would love to hear from someone else who is doing this.

Grundo over 2 years ago

Hi Dane

Difficult one, seems to be more issues with ED from having surgery than Radiotherapy. But obviously not everyone. As you have already mentioned after surgery RT is still possible but quite difficult surgery after RT, you would need an expert, expert. Obviously 57 is still young so one can understand not wanting to say goodbye to a sex life. see if active surveillance is possible because your stats seem low.

Also see what others say and try and research the different side effects and possible long term issues from both treatments

Steve

Dane1 over 2 years ago in reply to Grundo

Thank you for the reply.
I have been researching but at the moment I’m sticking with the AO for obvious reasons as my numbers are low at the moment. But I’m trying to hear from other men what experiences they have and how did they cope.

Stevecam over 2 years ago in reply to Dane1

Dane,

I wasn't suitable for surgery and opted for the Hormones and Radiotherapy. I don't regret that decision at all, even though the Hormones have tried their best to take away all my functions.

Looking at the bigger picture I'm sure I made the right decision. Even the Erectile Dysfunction... hopefully once my Testosterone is back working again things will develop, if not...

If I can stay in Remission it will be all worth it!!!

Talking about it is a great help, the more you talk, especially to others in your situation, it gets easier.

My partner asked me to start a 'Thought Diary' when I was diagnosed in May 2021. "What would I write???" I'm glad I did, now I am half way through my 6th diary.

Every day I read back from the corresponding day last year, sometimes it makes me laugh, sometimes it makes me cry. Especially some of the bad days.

Give it a try.

Steve (SteveCam)

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