New diagnosis

Hi Ricegirl 

I'm so sorry you're both going through this. I have also just been diagnosed at 53, so I understand just how overwhelming those first few weeks can be. The period between hearing the word "cancer" and having all the results is often the hardest because your mind naturally fills in the gaps.

The good news is that prostate cancer is very treatable, and the biopsy and bone scan are there to build a complete picture so the doctors can recommend the most appropriate treatment. Many men, even with more advanced disease, go on to live for many years with a good quality of life.

Sending you both my very best wishes. I hope the biopsy and bone scan come back with reassuring news and that you have a clear treatment plan soon.

Thank you so much for your reply.  I’m so sorry you are going through it too.  You are right that the unknown waiting period is very hard and my husband is naturally thinking the worst.  We have a 10 year old daughter so trying to keep things as normal as possible for her is very hard.  She already knows something is going on but we don’t want to tell her until we know more about the prognosis.  All the best to you on your journey too.

It is completely natural to feel overwhelmed and fear the worst. I have a 17-year-old daughter, and I found it most helpful to gather as much information as possible before speaking with her. Even then, it was a difficult conversation to navigate.

Please know that you have absolutely done the right thing by reaching out for support here. This community is a wonderful resource, and they have been incredibly helpful in my own experience.

Hi Ricegirl

So sorry that you have found yourself on this forum - but welcome to you and your husband.  As Neil101 says the time between hearing those first words abnd getting a full diagnosis and then a treatment plan in place can be very very hard.

The information on this site together with that on Prostate Cancer UK can be most helpful.  Personally I found the Toolkit from PCUK a very valuable resource, and they have plenty of other material as well - could I suggest that you have a look?https://prostatecanceruk.org/prostate-information-and-support . I recall that there is also some info about help in informing close relatives.

Also please be aware that you can see our profiles (if completed) by clicking on the round symbol next to our names - or indeed on our highlighted names, you will then be able to see where we as individuals are coming from....

This is a safe space so you are able to say/ask anything about this awful disease.

All the very best to you both.

KrisPy

Hi, I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. Rest assured even if it has spread it is highly treatable and if it’s not spread totally curable. I myself was diagnosed recently with metastatic incurable cancer but I’ve completely adjusted my mental approach, dietary and exercise routine and I’m making excellent progress and confident that I’ll be around for many years to come. Even if your husbands diagnosis is similar to mine,  he can easily do the same. Stay strong and stay positive. Best wishes to you both 

Morning Sads

Totally agree, that is my own approach.  I think there is something to this approach!!

PureGym offer a year of free membership for those of us on HT.

regards

KrisPy

Morning KrisPy,

Absolutely.. I’ve been told the medication tackles the cancer, the exercise, diet and positive mental attitude tackle the side effects that can be equally as damaging. Together they help keep this condition at bay for many, many years. 

Hi Ricegirl & Neil101 , at the start of this journey it is very difficult and you will be in shock.  Part of this is the very word cancer which conjures up what we have been told throughout our lives.  The good news is that PCa is different.  It is generally slow growing, generally curable and always treatable.  If you haven’t read a post I made last year, can I suggest you have a read of it.  The end - straight to palliative care! 
I like your positive attitudes.  
As for telling children my eldest grandchild was 6 when I dropped into the conversation that I had cancer.  No big deal as I didn’t make a fuss about it.  All my grandchildren have known that I have cancer and often ask how the cancer is, much the same as if I had a broken leg.  My mother always made a big deal of having injections and I grew up with a phobia about needles, so much so that I would pass out giving blood (Luckily, chemo sorted that out and I can now watch having a jab).  It’s all about how you tell them.  

I'm so sorry to hear that you and your husband are going through this. I can only imagine how overwhelming it must feel, especially while you're waiting for more test results. The waiting is often one of the hardest parts because there are so many unanswered questions.

Try to take things one step at a time, even though I know that's easier said than done. Many people find that once they have the biopsy and bone scan results and a treatment plan in place, they feel a little more in control.

Just being there for your husband, listening to him, and letting him know he doesn't have to face this alone can mean more than you realize. It's also important to take care of yourself, because this is a lot for you too.

I'll be thinking of you both and hoping for the best possible results and a successful treatment plan. You're not alone, and I hope you'll continue to reach out here whenever you need support. ️