Feeling irritating towards others

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Hi, I'm new to the group. Prior to my diagnosis of prostrate cancer, I was happy-go-lucky and never got stressed, I was very tolerant of other people and never got angry. I had my prostrate removed 3 weeks ago and am now pretty much pain free.

But I have suddenly become intolerant of other people and actually fell out with someone yesterday, which is so out of character for me. I'm struggling to understand what happened yesterday and wondering if anyone else has experienced the same feelings?

  • Grey,

    I can understand your reactions.  Mine was most likely because of the Hormones.  It was just after I started the Hormones last year.  I called it my "Angry" phase.

    I found a good coping mechanism, filling in a "thought diary".  That gets everything, no holds barred.  My partner suggested it, at first I thought "what will I write?"  Now it's "what will I not write?".

    I can do it without upsetting anyone else.  Just started diary no: 6

    Every day now I go back to the corresponding day last year to see how I was.  Some of it is frightening, some make me cry, some make me laugh.

    Trying to keep my sense of humour was paramount throughout it all.

    Give it a go.

    Steve (SteveCam)

  • Hi Steve

    Thank you for your reply, it is good to feel I'm not alone and going mad. What a great idea a thought diary is. I am going to start one today. I totally agree a sense of humour will prevail no matter what.

    Kind regards and congratulations for being in remission

    Best regards Rob

  • Hi Grey

    What an interesting post.

    I am the complete opposite of both you and Steve. Prior to being diagnosed with PC, I was Mr Angry, especially about poor service from any organisation. That said, I'm not the sort of person who physically attacks anyone! Since PC I'm much more chilled. I've always put this down to the HT, and wondered if I might revert to type now I'm off it. Guess we will see.

    Regards

    Stuart

    Trying to get fit again!
  • Hi Stuart

    Thank you for responding, I find it interesting how PC affects us all differently. This is the first time I've talked about my feelings and by doing so is helping me deal with my emotions and I honestly feel calmer today than I did a few days ago.

    Before PC I would never have discussed my feelings, so I guess that's a positive 

    Best regards

    Rob

  • Rob,

    Before the PC, I could never talk about my feelings and emotions.  It's taken the PC & counselling to basically pull my head out of the sand.

    Stuart,

    It's amazing to see how differently the PC affected your moods.

    My Angry phase (as I called it) lasted about 3 months.  It was once I had accepted the PC that I calmed down.  Quiet as a Mouse now.

    Steve (SteveCam)

  • Hi Steve

    I actually prefer the new chilled me and I'm hoping that Mr Angry doesn't come back now the testosterone should be rising!

    Stuart

    Trying to get fit again!
  • Stuart,

    I was due a Hormone jab, but told I don't need to, it could be 12 months before I am "firing on all cylinders".

    Steve (SteveCam)

  • Hi everyone sorry about the late entry into this thread, when I was diagnosed I became a recluse not wonting to see any body, I was so far down that I had counciling,  I'm ok now back to my normal self, outgoing with a silly sense of humour.

    All the best Ulls 

  • Ulls,

    It's amazing the range of mood effects.  Be interesting to see what happens when the Hormones wear off.

    Steve (SteveCam)

  • Hi Steve, I was told I would be on the for life, I don't know what the options are if the ever wear off, this thread just goes to prove we all respond differently