Radical prostatectomy 56 yr old

Hi

We all have different ways of dealing with this, me I’m so easy going I nearly slide off the chair because I’m so relaxed, even though I’m incurable. Is his curable ? If so great if not then there’s still lots of years in him with all the new medication. Although I don’t have a big shed ( it’s full of paint tins, gardening equipment, plant pots and summer loungers ) I stay in the house, I can drive my wife up the wall sometimes with my antics.

You sound in fair spirits obviously you know all about what PC can do, there’s a large amount of family wives mainly that come on here, men sometimes never seem to want to talk, but we try and advise, give help where we can, in my case I’ve been through most things so if they have the same as me I know what will be the next steps, you take care and keep positive take him a brew if he lets you into his domain of course.

Stay safe

Joe

Hi vintage 

The journey has begun, from a man who is 6 months after surgery of Radical prostatectomy I can say that as long as the cancer is still contained within the prostate then the surgery will clear it away in one. I guess he has had lots of time to consider all options including radiotherapy,  hormone therapy and active surveillance  ? Surgery was my choice although I do wish I had been given more time to research all the pros and cons of treatments.  For me well the cancer has been eradicated 99.9% sure of that,  and the incontinence has all but been conquered just a pad just in case.

My biggest problem is that of erectile dysfunction because my sex life was quite active and now there is none ! I think to try and talk it through with one another and to reassure one another that this is not the be all and end all of your relationship.  My partner does assure me that it is not all important but for me it is and I am ongoing in trying different tablets that may help . As a man I can say that it is a mental shock when the full effect of surgery becomes apparent. 

Overall I am glad that the cancer has been removed and the treatment received was amazing by nurses who really take time to make sure you're ok. I wish you both a positive outcome in the weeks and months ahead. 

All the best going forward 

Graeme. 

Hi Joe, thank you for your reply. Apart from a dodgy spot on his lung (scan again in 3 months), they can’t see anything else on the scans. He’s a 4+5 9, locally advanced. His Dad died from pc 20 years ago, and his Uncle also had it. I’m allowed in his domain, if I behave myself. 

Thank you for the info Graeme, we did consider the options, and he told me what he wanted to do (get it out), which is what I was thinking anyway, but I didn’t want to influence his decision. We are fully aware of the consequences of surgery, partial nerve sparing is a hope, but I want him alive, quite frankly, the rest of it we are strong enough to work around. I understand (as much as a woman can) how difficult it is/will be for him, I don’t think that’s really sunk in for him yet, but we’ll cross that bridge when we come to it, as it were. His Dad died of it, and his Uncle also had it, he’s a 4+5 9, locally advanced. 

Hi 

My father died from cancer, it is hereditary, but sometimes skips a generation, not that I knew this over five years ago. It’s good he has a rapport with you, love that quip ‘if you behave yourself’ I’m the other way round, I do all the silly things drives my wife mad sometimes, but she knows the type of person I’am. It’s good they keep up to date with his scans, that is important, not everything is PC some just age or something else. 
stay safe keep in his domain.

Joe

So glad to know that you're as invested in his wellbeing as you are because I think for me if my partner didn't push a little for me to get checked and then get  it done then I would possibly have left it and paid the price down the line of course  ! My surgeon managed to spare some of my nerves for which I am very grateful and the rest we will work out over time . The fact that he has had two very close members die of this must have been quite scary on discovering the cancer  ! Really hope he knows how lucky he is to have a kind hearted woman like you and to have a man cave to retreat to !

Be happy for life and embrace it .

Graeme. 

Thank you Joe, it’s a weird one re; genetics, have made sure all of his cousins are up to date with their tests, Don’t partners all drive each other up the wall sometimes? 

Thank you again, well, if he’d have bloody listened to me sooner  though 10 years ago the Dr said the PSA tests are too unreliable, despite my husband’s family history. That put him off completely, despite my nagging. 

Just wishing you good wishes for Monday and reassure him that the success stats on this kind of surgery are very high . Positive thoughts bring positive outcomes.  Best wishes

Graeme. 

Hi

My wife ( only kidding I think ) wants to ship me off to my sisters in Birmingham for a week or so, love my sisters  hmmm think I’ll give them a miss for now, how would my wife eat I’m the cook ‍ 

Stay safe

Joe