hi all, my father in law has prostate cancer has had it for over 3 years
he was told some weeks back that he is too weak to have any more chemo, he's had that and radiotherapy in the past
he was also asked if he wanted to know his prognosis, my partner is his next of kin and Power of attorney, she asked the oncologist for the prognosis, we were told a couple of months at most, this was in May this year, he was feeling a bit wobbly the other day, and had buzzed the local carer to phone doctor, he was given a tablet to calm him down as he was a bit agitated, anyway my partner has now travelled to Scotland to be with him, and have her last fathers day with him, she got in touch with the nurse who will visit him today to see what aids etc he needs, he now needs a hospital bed as he has been sleeping on the chair and now his feet are all swollen, he keeps saying he's not in pain and it's just that he cant get comfy in his own bed, but this morning my partner told me that he said he was tired this morning and has gone to his bed, hes a very proud 80-year-old, she has noticed his mood changes, hes either grumpy or angry, and she feels like shes walking on egg shells with him, then he is ok, and the last two days hes been sleeping a lot, hence he cant sleep at night so stays on chair which aint helping circulation in his legs and feet, she adores her dad and dosnt want to upset him, when she suggests things he accuses her of ordering him about which is not the case,he is eating, but not as much as he used to, hes washing and changing clothes, not shaving but that is due to his hands shaking, partner said she will suggest she shave him when he gets back up today, my partner is a care assistant working in hospital here at home, but its a different story when caring for your own parent, wondered if anyone else had any avice on this, thanks in advance
