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Hi Dani35

There seems to be so much for you to take on all at once; I am pleased that you reached out here, even if it was to get it out of your head as you mentioned.  I do hope that it has helped and that others who are experiencing similar to you will soon come along with their support.

There is always someone listening here and this forum, https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/carers-only-forum may be a great place for you as a carer to share thoughts.

Take care of you, this will better enable you to help your partner...

Lowe'

Hi Dani, sorry to hear of your situation and your partner's.

The good thing here is that he has a lowish gleeson and the cancer has not spread. U don't say what the PSA is, I presume also lowish.

Try and drum into your partner that his prospects look good, with surgery it's definitely curable.

Try and get him to leave the drinking till after the op and then celebrate.

All the best 

Steve

Thanks Lowedal, I shall check out that link. 

Grundo - yeah his PSA level is like 2. something so it's not abnormal at all. The cancer was found by accident essentially as he had no symptoms and was having a scan for something different at the time. Yeah, definitely trying to drum my scientific, fact based knowledge into him that he's really lucky and it sounds like it's been caught real early, so there's every reason to be optimistic.

Dani

hi l had my prostate out 3and half years now l thought that would be it and l would be cancer free but no l still had a small amount of cancer left. well l was offered experimental treatmeant so thought brill l will do that but l have to have injection in my tummy every 3month and l take two tablets once a day . now the down side l feel tired all the time get really depressed and the sweats are unbelivable l am haveing about 15 to 20 per day now these sweats take all your energy away from u and the weight u put on is unberliverble all in live may have been better if l just had the old treatment. plus there will be be no more sex ever and everything get small lol so dont think just becarse u have had your postate out all will be good have a long think what to do    

Hello D1234dab

Welcome to the forum.

I am so sorry to read of your issues, may I make a Couple of suggestions:

* It may be there are other Community members who can help you with your issues. Why not start a "new thread" just use the +new at the top of the page. More Community members will then notice this.

* I have been on Hormone Treatment for 21 months. I have stopped my hot sweats by taking Sage Tablets. It works for me but not everyone - worth a try!'

Best wishes - Brian.

l have tried sage tablets but made me feel sick most of the time so after a 2 weeks l came off plus l still got a lot of sweats at the moment l get up in the morning andget a sweat just from putting my socks on and l am getting them about evey 40 mins even sat in the chair lol

Hi Dani. So sorry to hear your woes. Your DP has two big problems which he needs to battle. You have three as you also have to support him. The worst  problem is the drinking because that will always be a potential problem forever and will probably do him more harm in the long term than the prostate cancer ever would, unless he can stop drinking completely. That is another battle which perhaps would be best left for another day after his treatment for PC is complete. It will however be very essential that he leaves the bottle alone before and at least for a while after the treatment. He needs a clear head and alcohol will adversely affect his tretament and body functions. The good news is that there are two options which have been given to your DP for the PC and there are many on this planet (and in this forum) have been down those routes and are still here to tell the story many, many years after the event. So for the immediate, I would suggest you both concerntrate on the positive. It is the negative which you say makes him go on a bender. The positive thoughts perhaps will help him with the drinking and put him in a better frame of mind. He needs to concerntrate on the goal of achieving successful treatment. My main goal was losing weight which I wanted to do after my consultant frightened me describing how body fat caused difficulties with the operation. I lost Realise that the treatment will be successful. Read the success stories of the treatment offered on this forum and elsewhere. Ignore the small minority which have not been a success. Read about the options and do consider the potential side effects as there are some for both. You will discover that treatment affects everyone differently and not everyone gets all the side effects.

Hi Danni 35. I am a real dingbat. Just taken in that your post was THREE YEARS ago. I do hope that your partner's journey has been kind and that things are much brighter for you both now. My error reminds me of my first days as an apprentice. I was given a thick package of questions about all sorts of things. The first lines started off ""What is your Name"" then there was a statement ""Please read all questions before filling in the forms"". Well two weeks later I was pleased that I was coming to the end of completing the questions having spent evenings and weekends working away at these and worried whether I was answering the questions adequately for my new employer. Anyway right at the end there was a one liner ""Now that you have read the questions, all you have to do is write your name on the first page"". The lesson of that was of course to make sure you read instructions and understand what is required. I have generally done that over the past 52 years since. OMG the things that I went through in my appenticeship and the things I put others through subsequently. It would be really frowned upon today.