Sex after prostectamy

Hello RosieCat2011 

I am so sorry to read your post. I can't give you an answer to your question as I still have most of my prostate (the NHS keep taking bits!) however here's a link to a thread in the General Cancer Chat group you may find of help:

 Sex and cancer - Let's talk 

This may also help:

 Talking with experts about Sex and Cancer: "All good sex starts with a conversation" 

and this:

Your sex life and Cancer.

Do call the Support line too on 0808 808 00 00 (8am to 8pm 7 days a week). They can also offer plenty of advice. You are not alone with this problem.

Best wishes - Brian.

Is he on hormone therapy? 

Thank you ever so much. I appreciate these contacts as our relationship is suffering. 

No, he eont tell them the problems his having so they don't know about the problems or the night sweats.

Bear with him, he will get over it. Also, keep in mind that you can’t have sex when you are dead either.

Age will also come into play here

Hello RosieCat2011 

I had some bad "hot flushes" whilst on Hormone Therapy and they were that bad we had to change the sheets daily. I started taking Sage Tablets (Menoforce) and the hot sweats went within a fortnight and have never come back - I am still on the sage tablets.

They don't work for everyone but worked for me.

Best wishes - Brian.

Hi RosieCat2011

It is often said on this forum that prostate cancer is a couples disease and it is great that you have reached out to this community.

If hubby is on hormone therapy then hot sweats and loss of libido are par for the course it seems - that is how it has affected me.  The sexual side of my marriage has not been a problem for some time, before the diagnosis so it has not been an issue so far ( although I am waiting for an ED appointment from a “health” point of view).

There is some great advice already provided, but could I also mention my own go to when things start getting into my brain- and that is the Headspace App.  They have a Coping with Cancer course which I have found really helpful ( and have just done a session about an hour before writing this).  It is perfectly suitable for everyone whose mind has been scrambled by the diagnosis..

I didn’t think I would be interested in doing any “mindful “ stuff being a typical bloke !! But this old dog has learnt some new tricks !!

best wishes to you both

KrisPy

Thank you for your advice. I appreciate the time you took to answer me. Every bit of advice is useful and it is good to know that I am not the only one going through this.

Warm wishes

RosieCat2011

Thank you for taking the time to reply I am sorry that you, too are going through this. It is nice to know that people are going through the same and are able to give advice. My husband is on perimenopause + menopause and he is not getting sweats every night now but still getting them . He has been on these for a couple of weeks now. did it take time for you to stop getting them? or do you think he may need hormone replacement?

Warm wishes 

Margaret

Hello Margaret (RosieCat2011 ) 

It took a couple of weeks for the sage tablets to kick in but they have cured my hot sweats.

As i said they don't work for everyone.

Best wishes - Brian.