Confused and scared

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Yesterday I was told my husband’s blood tests showed serious infection. He was admitted to hospital two weeks ago with an unidentified infection. After scans and blood tests we were told he has an infection, possibly from his catheter or may be a reoccurrence of cellulitis, previously n his left leg, now in his  right leg has responded to treatment. After two weeks on IV antibiotics a doctor came to see us this evening to say the infection has responded well and they are doing to discharge him,  the spread of the cancer and the recurring pain was not mentioned. Questions asked were met with the answer, it is not within my specialism, I will pass on your concern. My husband has metastatic prostate cancer, metastatic spinal cord compression, and lymphoma in his legs, abdomen and axel skeleton. Is sending him home humane? Our community nurses are so overstretched that they often cancel appointments to see my husband. G.P. Service proffesses to be gold standard but we can’t recall the last time my husband was assessed, face to face by a Doctor in the community 

  • I have a specialism in empathy.

    I can see you are calmly explaining what I would call wits end.

    I think I know why you are in a situation of desperation and that’s because you are in a hospital not a hospice.

    I don’t mean he should be on palliative care as I’ve no idea of his conditions but the hospitals do not have cancer specialists on the wards you’re on obviously. Otherwise you would be able to get better explanations for the infections and the general health issues he has.

    I feel for you and hope he doesn’t get sent home to be looked after a sketchy district nursing system that’s overstretched and not really kitted out for cancer patients. Hospice care teams are best suited if there are any left in your area.

    All you can do is keep chatting to the doctors in the hope that more can be done.

    what can I say.

    take care and good luck