MRI scan

Good morning Disneylandb3ad46 

the ambulance personnel will have been told how fragile your dad is . They will make him as comfortable as possible . Don’t push your dad to get dressed . He can go in his pyjamas . The main thing is that he gets there . 

will be thinking if you & your dad tomorrow . Please let us know how it goes . 

best wishes & hugs 

Liz & OH xx

I’m going to say to dad he can go in what ever he wants as long as I can get him in that hospital I will be one happy daughter , it’s vital now that we get this scan because if he doesn’t , well I don’t no what else we can do honestly because he needs treatment and help asap ! X 

he’s already missed 2 , one due to a mess about with the hospital transport and the other due to him having a meltdown and refusing 

hi  Disneylandb3ad46 

yes start preparing him today saying they have advised he’s to go comfortable as the ambulance people will make sure he’s warm if he’s in his pj’s . Just keep talking and express how important it is for him to attend as the consultant will then do his work to make him feel better and hopefully pain free .

you need to also take care of yourself . 
Liz xx

Thankyou , I’ve spent most of my Christmas with dad , I feel like he picks up alot when I’m there and I push food and fluids when I can , if I’m not there he only has a carer in the morning , so it’s a difficult one , but in jan he’s having another visit at 4.30 for a cup of tea etc I’m hoping after all this tomorrow they decide what there doing next 

they can’t just leave him in bed like this surely, I wouldn’t let me dog live like this x

Good luck today 

best wishes 

Liz & OH xx

Well , he already started yesterday with the exuses saying he’s been up on his feet a lot and “ today will be a lot worse” and he will have a bad back 

so my mums going to try her best but like we say if he doesn’t go today I think it’s quiet selfish I’ve put alot into dad and he’s giving us absolutely nothing so I can’t do much more from here if he doesn’t go 

the consultant is waiting for these results so he can see if dads having the compression and if he is they can act fast , if dad wants to give up he needs to say so I’m not exuasting myself like I am to try and make him better x 

Hi Chloe. You are clearly a very loving daughter and are doing all you can to help your dad get better. If he does go today you can chalk that up as a success and hopefully build from that. If he still refuses to go don’t blame yourself, you have done all you can in this currently frustrating situation. The ambulance people will be used to the more difficult cases so I’m sure will be able to help you and your mum. My best wishes for a successful outcome today…

Comes a point where you've done all you can. As long as he understands consequences of not making the effort then you and your mum can do little more than exhort and encourage. If he doesn't understand then I guess could try for "sectioning", but not a long term nor easy solution.

Just...  Good luck.

Regards, Dave 

If any of his family have  lasting power of attorney for your dad . You could possibly use this as he really doesn’t get the consequences of his actions if he doesn’t go. Sorry for being blunt but you have done everything you possibly can for your dad . But he maybe needs a reality check and told what could happen if he doesn’t go and could end up either more sick and being moved to a hospital / nursing home for long term care. 

whatever happens today you need to look after yourself . Fingers and toes crossed he will go 

hugs 

Liz & OH xx

The other thing is, if your hospital has a policy where 3 no-shows puts someone back at the bottom of the list for investigation / treatment, which way would your dad react to that I wonder?