This might sound daft. The wife and me are looking to adopt a rescue cat so we're perusing local cat sanctuary websites today. A few of the descriptions for kittens said things like "if you feel able to commit for 15+ years..") and I got quite tearful wondering if I will be here in 15 years due to the PC (I'm 65). It passed quickly. Wife assured me that no matter what happens, we will be giving an animal a safe home. I don't often think like that, it was just the timescale. Feeling better now.
I know what you mean
i had a similar thought when I had to buy a new light bulb for a lamp
The box the bulb came in said the bulb had an expected 15 year lifespan.
”Outlived by a lightbulb” I thought. Made me feel quite sad
BTW - the bulb lasted 12 months until I had to replace it so you never know
beating a lightbulb cheered me up - you have to take the little wins
Hello Beerandrocks
It's a natural thing to think about mortality as we get older and with cancer, yes it's always there.
It's not always the Prostate Cancer that gets you - 98% of men with Prostate Cancer die WITH it not OF it and don't forget we all have to go sometime!!
I would take your wife's spin on it - you are giving a cat a new chance at life and looking after the cat will give you pleasure and something to look forward to - indeed it will stimulate the positive attitude you need in this life.
Go for it - think of that kitten.
Best wishes - Brian.
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At the point I was diagnosed, my wife and I looked for a rescue dog/puppy. We found one that was 9 months old and a wonderful, over excited ball of fun. He is a Multichon (mix of Maltese and Bichon Frieze) and the times he has rescued my mental state have been so worth it. I understand how you feel about the timescales, and would recommend Cognitive Behaviour Therapy. It helped me to come to terms with the cancer and the side effects. Sadly if you want this on the NHS then it is a long waiting list (8 months in my case).
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