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Hello Help 

i am so sorry to read your post - sadly the Cancer journey affects us all in different ways. The Hormone Therapy has many side effects, and fatigue and weakened muscles being just two of them. Lets hope the antibiotics work and he feels better in the morning.

I have done 3 years on HT - it's hard and a positive attitude is half the battle - but I know you can't be like that all the journey - I have had 2 awful weeks where I wanted to give up HT - speaking to people here who have been there sorted me out.

The crying is another side effect of HT I can cry for England, I was at football last night, we won 4-0 everyone else is cheering - I am balling my eyes out - I do it watching TV, films and even in the pub - it's a sign you are human and have feelings. It's fine for a man to cry!!

A cancer journey is a "couples" journey, so you also need to look after yourself too. One in two people on a cancer journey have some sort of mental health issue, so Mike's not alone. We all have feelings like that at some time.

Can I suggest tomorrow you give our Support Line a ring (it's there for both of you) om 0808 808 00 00 (8am to 8pm 7 days a week) I am sure they can help.

In the meantime both of you stick with us. Keep posting and if there is anything I can do for you let me know.

Best wishes - Brian.

Hello,   we are so sorry to hear your husband is at such a low point and hope the antibiotics kick in quickly and that he feels a lot better by the morning.  HT can be a real trial but if, when things are better, your husband can manage some exercise, my husband has found it very beneficial.  Please remember, you are not alone on this journey, many will have read your post and will be thinking of you both tonight and going forward.

Good morning Help . 

I am sorry to hear that you are having a bad time of it at the moment but hopefully the antibiotics will start to make Mike feel a bit better within the next couple of days. Our doctor always advises us to take probiotics if we have to have antibiotics as this helps to get the gut flora into balance more quickly and aids recovery (I prefer a good Geek yoghurt whereas my husband has capsules).

The hormone therapy has turned my husband from a strong capable bear of a man to a physically weak insecure shadow of his former self who will cry at the drop of a hat. He is more 'needy' and occasionally I have to have strong words to remind him that we still have a good quality of life and that it is worth fighting for. Like you and Mike we are on the incurable but treatable pathway, but a lot further along after almost 5 years as my husband has had several recurrences which has meant different types of treatment. It is a rollercoaster of a journey but we get through it together and try to stay positive, always remembering that our oncologists say they have more tools in the toolbox.

It can be hard on both of us, both physically and mentally at times so it is important that you look after yourself as well - the worst for me is the insomnia for which I haven't found anything that works. 

 Keep posting, vent if you need to and keep asking questions.

Thank you so much Brian, thank you 

Thank you for your help, it is appreciated 

Thank you Alwayshope, your support is really appreciated