I have lost my support

HI all

RE I have lost my support.

Maureen the Love of my life was my support who I lost suddenly on the 8^th of February 2024.

At the age of 77 when she passed. Maureen had worked most of her life as well as bringing up her five children on her own most of the time.. She told me at the time we met that her children were her life and would do anything for them at any time. We met in the year of 1998 spent a year in Suffolk then move to Lincolnshire. Maureen’s work took her around most of Lincolnshire and a little bit into Cambridgshire. She made friends with most of her customers and chatted with their children ( she loved children ) She liked meeting people. She loved her work. As with Covid arriving Maureen was laid off from work for good in Mid 2020 as all the work went on line ( the internet ).

After a few weeks of being laid off work Maureen was going about finding things to do in the house

like a bear with a sore head. I said to her you had better look for a job or find a little job doing home work. As luck would have it and going around Lincolnshire with her work she knew where she maybe able to get some home work which she did. (ie packing greeting cards)

Maureen told me that she did not know what to say to myself at the time I was diagnosed with Prostate Cancer but she said she would be with me all the way as it went along and asked what the PSA results were and how I was feeling. She was with me but not saying much. I think it could be hard for the partner as well as us guys.

I know she is looking down at me and saying get on with it and keepgoing.

Sorry about this but I just had to tell someone.

Les

Sending hugs over the ether Les.  Bless you.

Les

It's not a problem - we all have feelings and we all show our love for people in different ways - it's good that you are able to express your love for Maureen and to share it with us - it's appreciated.

It's nice of you to keep in touch - we are all here for you - bless you.

Kindest Regards - Brian.

Thank you Les for sharing this and don't be sorry. She sounds like a lovely lady and you were lucky to find her during your middle years. It is good to talk both to and of our loved ones even when they are not with us physically. I used to still 'talk out loud' to my late husband for some time after he had died. I was lucky to find my current love in 1996, but know that our time together is going to be cut short because of his cancer which is why it is so important to enjoy every minute we have together. I look forward to you sharing more snippets whenever you want. Look after yourself and I send you a big hug.

Sorry couldn't give you my full attention when I opened the message first as the telephone rang.  Maureen sounds like a wonderful woman and you were so lucky to have found her and to be able to enjoy your time together.  I feel it is almost harder i many ways for our partners and family because they are conscious of staying strong for us and continuing doing normal things when they really want to just have a good cry sometimes.  I know my wife worries far more than I do about my annual PSA test.  Just after I was diagnosed my eldest son invited us to go on holiday with him and his wife and to Crete.  They arrived a few days before us and as soon as my wife saw him they both hugged and cried their eyes out right there ate the airport it was just a way of relieving the stress and pent up emotions they both had been keeping in check.

You are lucky to have had such a lovely caring wife.  I am sure you will miss her always but she is still there in your heart and always will be.  I still talk to my Mum and Dad and think of them often and still am sad that my first wife died ( of cancer at age 57) before her grandchildren were born - we had been separated about 5 years and she had re-married but it was cruel that she wanted grandchildren so much and then didn't live to see my youngest son settle down and have children.  My eldest son and his wife never wanted children.  Life is like that my grandsons are 19 and 16 now and lovely young men so sad she had to miss out on all that.  That is just the way it goes sometimes and we just have to carry on and make the most of what we have in their memory.

Don't be sorry about sharing your feelings here it is so good to read your thoughts.

Take care of yourself

Bless you Les

Des

A big thank you to you all.  Your nice comments are helping.. At the moment it is hard going through a day without a tear.  Thank you

Les

Hello Les

Sorry to be responding somewhat late in the day but I have been out and about !

Thank you so much for telling us some more about Maureen. She sounds a lovely lady and I am so pleased you met her and have some good memories of your time spent together.  Somebody once told me that we never really die until there is no one alive to us. So, your memories of Maureen are keeping her alive in your heart and bringing her to life for us who are reading more about her.

I hope you are doing ok as you go through this sad time in your life? You know where we are if ever you want to talk some more!

BTW You don't say where you live in Lincolnshire but I suspect it might be in South Lincs? (Sorry f you have already told us - I know there was a discussion a bit ago about people from Lincs)  As a Lincolnshire resident you might know what I mean by saying that I am a true 'yellow belly' having been born in stamford. 

Take care and it was lovely to have a bot of a catch up with you x

Hi Les,

Thank you for sharing your feeling and lost with us. The strong feeling of lonesome and lost always intense around the holidays periods and the grieving is more acute. I know I wanted to go under the duvet and hide but you are doing so well by sharing with us. Thank you for that. What helped me in the the past is being close to nature and reaching out for old and new friends. 

I am sending you lots of hugs from Brighton.

Dafna  

Of course it is difficult to get through a day without a tear.  My sister lost her husband to gullet cancer back in 2021 and still has a little cry every day over something that stirs a memory.  It would be surprising if you didn't.  x

Maureen sounded like a lovely lady and she obviously made you very happy. I am sure she is looking down on you every second of the day.