Not eating

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Not sure if I am duplicating this on another part of the site, but  my husband (77) was diagnosed with advanced prostate cancer about a year ago.  He has multiple bone mets throughout the skeleton and whilst initially on Firmagon (hormone therapy), he has changed to Prostap as he had too much pain from the first. 

He has bladder incontinence which is manageable by wearing pads but has been having often uncontrollable diarrhea every day for nearly four months.  He has had an endoscopy and a colonoscopy so far and oncology say nothing to do with the cancer.  He recently had an MRI to rule out spinal compression and a contrast ct scan.  Nothing sinister found that they didn't already know.

However, my biggest worry is that he can no longer can eat.  I have tried everything, obviously including his favourite foods.  He can manage sweet things like fruit, yoghurt and soft deserts but he just cannot mange more than a couple of mouthfuls of any savoury food and is having Energy drinks supplied by the doctor.

My questions are, do other sufferers have bad diarrhea and is total lack of appetite and inability to eat normal.  He is going downhill so fast and also getting dehydrated too. I am at my wits end trying to help him.

  • Gina, this will make you laugh.

    Got in from work yesterday, had a quick shower (can't have Acupuncture stinking of Sh***).

    Fast forward, I went to the loo after the Acupuncture, couldn't find the opening...Hmm!!!  I had put my Boxers on back to front.

    I remember from when I was little, my mother saying It was bad luck to change things around, so I left them.

    Imagine if I had been in an accident and the hospital had to cut my trousers off.  What would they make of that?

    Hope it made you laugh.

    Steve (SteveCam)

  • Wonder if I will get a stick?

    No doubt it would help.

    Steve (SteveCam)

  • I am pmsl at your Olympics post and then even more at your back to front boxers, you are a plonker but very funny.  You and Ulls are wobbly old crocks aren't you? Must admit Richard is the same but he is 77.

    Anyway, more of the saga from Morcott in Rutland. Are you sitting comfortably? Doc rings on Wed night after surgery. He was supposed to be taking his sons to a rugby match but didn't as he had seen R's blood test results. R had been in bed for two days with feeling really ill, diarrhea and vomitting and was downstairs in his pj's. Doc says pack an overnight bag and head to A&E as his potassium levels are low and has an infection. I know from a friend that if your potassium levels are low it is dangerous as you can have a heart attack. So downstairs I go, tell him to get dressed and put out some comfortable clothes for him. I drive 18 miles in the dark in pouring rain (hate driving at night at the best of times), only then to sit next to a prisoner in handcuffs in a packed waiting room at Peterborough City Hospital. I can honestly say that A&E waiting rooms are the epitome of hell, just without the flames.

    Anyway, luckily he was triaged within about  20 mins and finally taken to a bed in 'Majors' where at least he got to lie down. Five hours later we saw a doc and it turns out his heart meds are far too strong and slowing his heartrate down to 45 bpm. He was given Digoxin eleven years ago and they have never adjusted the dose ffs. Initially he was prescribed them for fast heart rate but with years of Atrial Fibrillation the heart is weaker and would struggle to beat that fast anymore. Why the hell do they not review meds thoroughly instead of waiting for someone to be ill or die from overdoses.  In fact the pill being so strong had become toxic in his body and was making him vomit. 

    At 12 am. I left him to be finally admitted in the medical assessment ward and my lovely sister put me up for the night to save me driving home. Luckily my daughter came over and took Sidney back with her before we left so I didn't have to worry about him. After a large brandy and reasonable nights sleep I went home and in the afternoon they told me he was being discharged and I needed to collect him but, that the new meds would take up to 4 hours to put up!!!! He is home now and we have to go back tomorrow for a meds review and more blood tests. So more bloody waiting for results etc. Oh what fun life is at the moment!!!

    Anyway, thanks for the laughs, cheered me up. 

    Gina

  • Gina I have to be careful to PMSL, all depends what Boxers I have on.Sob

    Seriously though, I can imagine you next to a handcuffed prisoner, growling...

    It doesn't surprise me about Richard being on wrong doses of medication.  You have to be on top of everything these days.

    I'm lucky, Tracey knows more than the Doctors.

    Hope things calm down now, have a good weekend.

    From one of the wobbly (not so) old crocs.

    (I'm getting crafty, put notices on my Boxers "Front" and "Back").

    Steve (SteveCam)

  • So Im a wobbly crock, but never put boxer's on the wrong way round, inside out is ok.

    So why does Richard get a pass at 77 and I don't the nerve of it, cheeky ha'pee,

    Stop being silly I'm please to hear Richard has been sorted out, more bloods and waiting unfortunately this is normal

  • Don't suppose Gina had Porridge for breakfast!

    Steve (SteveCam)

  • Proberbly a cheeky bacon sandwich 

  • Think "Ronnie Barker"

    Steve (SteveCam)

  • If she's not serving porridge she should be after that remark about us LoL 

  • Two scoops for me.

    Steve (SteveCam)