Prostate & Bladder Cancer

Hello Blodwen (Blodwen8e8481) 

Being emotional is a very common side effect of Hormone Therapy, it's something I can relate to as I can break into tears at the drop of a hat. As a man it's just not what you expect but sometimes you just can't help it and for me small things can trigger tears.

My wife says "don't worry, there's nothing wrong with a man crying".

Don't worry, it's just a side effect of the medication, and just being there for him should be enough for him to understand you know the cause. It may even have been brought on by the thought of the chemotherapy starting later this week.

Best wishes - Brian.

Thankyou I have said the same crying is healthy and a sherry helped  can't wait for Friday to come soon enough thankyou for your kind words

Hello Blodwen (Blodwen8e8481) 

I wish you both well with the Chemotherapy when he starts it on Friday. We do have a specialist group you may find helpful to join at this time and here's the link you need;

Chemotherapy forum 

Best wishes - Brian.

Hello Blodwen

My husband did not cope very well with the hormone therapy. He was told that he needed it for different times - 6 months, 18 months, 2 years and 3 years. He reached rock bottom at 18 months as he had a non prostate cancer related health emergency.  The oncologist stopped the ht at that point. HT seems to affect everybody differently - some men have more distressing side effects than others.

I think the only way to help your husband is to show him you understand, give him your full support and encouragement, keep him occupied and as active as possible - both at home and by going out and about, and lots of cuddles and little (no  weight gaining!) treats!!! (the more intimate side of marriage does get lost in all of this and this is psychologically difficult for our menfolk too!).

On top of the hormone therapy, the diagnosis and the fear of what might happen during the treatment and beyond has a big psychological impact on all of us - both the men and their partners. I found watching my husband going through it all extremely painful, too. So, you will have your own support needs. My husband would not talk to anyone about his diagnosis - not even me or the doctors! I found this really tough and is why I started posting on this forum. Please know that there are lots of us wives posting her - you are not alone and we are all on different treatment pathways and different stages of 'the journey'. The one thing we have in common is the fact that we have each other!

I think between now and Friday (if your husband is like mine when approaching radiotherapy), you may have more emotional 'events'. We are here for you both!

Best of luck x 

Thankyou for your kind words

Hello Blodwen,

I had triplet therapy in 2024, the chemo was docetaxel. I wrote a blog of my experience and if you're interested in reading it there's a link below. 

I hope your husband's treatment is a complete success.

Derek.

Prostate Cancer Recurrence - Triple Therapy

Thankyou