Bloods done on Monday 29th July . Oncologist nurse called yesterday to find out how OH is doing . Bloods are great , PSE down to 3.1. No real side effects other than fatigue . She said she will only phone if bloods aren’t great now. To see Oncologist in October but will have MRI beforehand .
Had a list of questions for her regarding the appointments , MRI, radiotherapy and CT as feel like a headless chicken right now. Thought it had passed and feeling a bit more human but no such luck as we had been given too many mixed messages to get head around it all and syphon out the wood from the proverbial trees .
I kept reading the letter from the oncologist as there were bits I couldn’t grasp after being told by three different professionals before seeing Oncologist that only left seminal vesicle involved and one nearby lymph node . However the letter says both seminal vesicles and three lymph nodes . One nearby the prostrate and possibly a femoral & inguinal node. So if they are involved no curative pathway and OH would have palliative radiotherapy once a week for 6 weeks . Needed to ask about “palliative” as it just scared us as when you hear that word your head jumps to conclusions. Has anyone any words of wisdom regarding the lymph nodes and radiotherapy .
Yes, it is and I can't say things will ever be the same. We are mourning for the path we thought our lives would be taking and it's not fair!
I truly hope that things get easier for you when you know what's happening and you have a plan to fight this insidious disease.
Sending you love and hugs
Xxx
Hi Johnam, my oh was told in May that he was on a palliative pathway by urology, total shock and panic set in and was never explained properly what it meant. My thoughts went to terminal and how long. It wasn’t till June and the oncologist from the Freeman explained that palliative is incurable but treatable. The words palliative nearly put me in an early grave. I was angry with Urology for not explaining or simplifying the word Palliative. Yes, we all define palliative as end of life but it isn’t. PC is so complex but it’s a route we are facing and palliative means they can live for many years with the PC controlled. Best wishes.
Hi Majestic , you are absolutely correct. When I heard the words palliative care 7 years ago it freaked me out. I don’t think it is intentional by the medics, I just think our use of the word has deviated from the medical word over time, possibly with the wide scale introduction of the hospice movement, which is associated with palliative and often end of life.
In my experience by far the hardest part of a cancer diagnosis is at the start. The total shock and disbelief followed by the unknown, waiting for tests and finally the results. Your world is turned upside down and in many ways is similar to a bereavement. My heart goes out to all of you new members going through that, but please take encouragement that you will settle into a new normal. Not the same as before, there are disadvantages but in certain aspects better. Life does go on after a palliative diagnosis I can assure you and I am still enjoying mine! David
Best wishes, David
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