I’m caring for my son who was diagnosed in July

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I feel quite alone and as though my life has caved in and just revolves around caring and working.

I will always care for my son but im unable to plan anything as we dont know what the future holds.

Anyone else?

  • Hi  and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.

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  • Dear Sparkle,

    im so sorry your son is poorly, my mum is too - I am grateful to be able to take time to be with my mum.

    All I can say make little plans not big ones , take each day as they come and enjoy them with your son cherish any good moment you get- that’s what I’m doing xxxx

    Again my apologies your son is ill x 

  • Hi ravenclaw1990

    Im sorry to read that you have a poorly mum. It’s tough when a loved one gets sick . Like you I’m fortunate that I can care for him and fit my work round that .

    i was feeling very low last week as my life seems to have all but caved in - I’m unable to make any future plans as I have no idea what I will have to deal with next . This week however I have been to the local cinema with some friends and have something planned for next week so that’s what I shall do . …little steps taking one day at a time ( I’ve been doing that since July !) 

    Im so sad for my son who is only 32 but he is doing everything he can ( while he can) inbetween chemo sessions . It’s during chemo that he needs my support the most .

    please write back if it helps you 

    all the best to you 

    x

  • Dear Sparkle, 

    I’m so sorry your son has been diagnosed with this awful disease . 32 is no age at all it seems so unfair, I am 34 my mum is 54. 
    firstly you are incredible supporting and looking after your son, and I’m sure he is so grateful for you.

    Have his medical team got any idea how long his treatment will be for and his prognosis will be? My mum is sadly terminal but we are fighting this to the end and hope it gives us more time xxxx

    Please tell your son I am thinking of him 

    xxx Charlotte xxx