My father in law has been having palliative chemo for pancreatic cancer for the last 2 months. My mother in law’s way of coping seems to be to block everything out and avoid talking. Due to family history, my husband and sister in law are having to speak to genetic counsellors. I’m also wanting to guide our two young children throughout this process. Feeling a bit overwhelmed with trying to support everyone and finding the right balance. Hearing about other people’s experiences and advice about any aspect of this would be really helpful. Thanks
Hi Clare,
i agree it’s a overwhelming experience. My only advice would be to speak with your partner and MIL when they want to talk and try to take some time for yourself to process.
My husband was diagnosed in late September and I find my emotions change every day. Some good some bad.
All you can do is offer your MiL your support for when she wants or needs it, we all cope very differently but I found talking helped.
We are also having genetic testing for our children who are 12,14 and 19.
Do you have anyone to talk to?
How is your husband holding up?
sending hugs
Chrissie
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