My father has pancreatic and liver cancer. It was diagnosed during lockdown and has progressed quickly. It's stage four. He has opted not to have chemo (tried one round, and he didn't respond well).
I've moved back into the family home for a period of time to support my parents. I am finding it difficult to talk to my Dad, as he's becoming increasingly distant and frustrated. He seems annoyed by my presence here. He's also often confused/incoherent.
He's also recently started on morphine and while this has eased the pain, it has side-effects which are linked to the above.
I wondered if people had any advice and also on what's likely to happen in the coming weeks/months?
Hi and welcome to the online community
I'm sorry to hear about your dad's recent diagnosis. It sounds like an incredibly tough time for the whole family.
It can be difficult to know what to say, and how to say it, when talking to someone who has cancer. You might find this information from Macmillan on what to say to someone who has cancer a useful starting point.
Your dad may also be finding it very hard to come to terms with his diagnosis, as it's still relatively early days for him, so taking a look at this information on understanding uncertainty might give you an insight into what he's possibly feeling and worrying about.
Although you say that you think your dad is annoyed by your presence I'm sure he understands that you only have his best interests at heart.
Sending a supportive ((hug))
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
