I'm struggling to understand how my mum could have gone so quickly. I was under no illusions she would be cured or last longer than the initial 12 months she was given but the extremely fast decline has shocked not only me but the palliative team that were supporting us.
Mum was admitted to hospital on 28/06/23 after a CT scan showed a mass in the head of the pancreas. The tumour was blocking the bile duct for which a stent was inserted and biopsy taken 06/07/23.
Cancer was staged at 1b officially on 14/07/23. Oncology appointment on 24/08/23 to explain would start folfirinox on 14/09/23. Requested baseline scan which was done 27/08/23 where it was reported tumour was stable.
Sepsis discovered 12/09/23 due to stent blockage and new stent inserted 12/10/23 where duodenal narrowing discovered and duodenal stent inserted 25/10/23.
27/10/23 oncology appointment where we were told treatment no longer an option due to frailty.
31/10/23 had palliative care team assigned to us. They mentioned she looked well and when I asked on 08/11/23 if I'd get Christmas with her they said that was definitely not an unreasonable hope.
15/11/23 she became fully bedbound unable to even go to the bathroom and them passed away at 00:10 18/11/23.
What happened?
Hi 4naan
I'm so sorry to read that your mum recently passed away and it's natural that you'd want to know how this could be as she was only recently diagnosed.
It might be an idea to make an appointment with her consultant or cancer nurse specialist so that they can answer your questions. If this isn't possible then her GP may be able to help.
You might find it helpful to join the bereaved family and friends forum as this would give you the chance to ask how others got information around the circumstances of a death when their loved ones passed away.
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Sending virtual ((hugs))
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