Waiting game - my mum

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Hi all/anyone.

My mum has been told she has ovarian/peritoneum cancer following a ct scan, she has had a biopsy and we are waiting for those results, been 10 days now.

She is not eating, just sleeping all the time, I feel so powerless to help her and of course worrying about what these results will mean. My dad is taking care of her but it's been scary to see how quickly she has gone downhill in the past couple of months.

Not much point to this post but I've been reading posts for some insight. My best wishes go to all with cancer and those affected by it. 

  • Hi  and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.

    I'm sorry to read that your mum has recently been diagnosed with ovarian cancer. Waiting for results is a really horrible time but hopefully you'll all feel more in control once you know what the treatment plan is.

    I'm not a member of this group, as I've had different types of cancer, but I'm sure the group members will try their best to answer any questions you might have, around your mum's diagnosis and treatment, and share their experiences with you.

    I'm going to recommend that you also join the family and friends group which is a safe and supportive place to share your emotions and worries with others who have a loved one living with cancer.

    If you'd like to join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.

    When you feel up to it, it would be great if you could put something about your mum's diagnosis and tests so far into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.

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  • Thanks for your reply I have followed your suggestions. Still no news. All the best to you. 

  • Oh LotusLozza

    i am so sorry to read about your lovely mum being diagnosed with ovarian cancer.  I think it’s the hardest thing in the world watching the people we love suffer.  Hopefully the medical team will come up with a solid treatment plan and things will improve for you and your family.  I myself was diagnosed with ovarian cancer a couple of weeks ago and am currently waiting to go into hospital for a total hysterectomy ++. I am dreading the surgery but I’m trying to stay positive for the sake of my husband who is devastated by my unexpected diagnosis.  Cancer is hard on everyone concerned.  Stay strong. Big hugs.

  • Hi Annie21, thanks for your reply. I'm so sorry to hear your diagnosis, and hope you are doing OK. Best wishes for the surgery. Still no news for my mum and it's so hard, she is in pain, can't eat etc. That ad with the jack in the box comes on the TV and that's where we are. Limbo. Anyway, I appreciate your reply especially with your own issues, very kind. Xx

  • Good Morning LotusLozza

    I am so sorry to hear about your dear mum being in pain and not eating.  It must be so very hard for you and your family to witness.  Please may I suggest you contact the Macmillan Helpline, they are amazingly kind and very knowledgeable I think you would benefit from speaking  to a professional who will be able to offer support and advice.  Their number is 0808 808 0000 - daily 8.00-8.00pm I telephoned them recently after much soul searching and I’m so glad I did, they listen and genuinely care about what is happening to you. I felt so much better after speaking to them.  Big hugs, stay strong

  • Thanks, you have such a big heart to be thinking of a stranger at this time. I'll bear the phone line in mind. X