Worried about telling my husband

I'm so sorry to find yourself here , please don't feel alone , we are a lovely bunch who can support you . 

I can't really give you any advice re telling your husband but I can understand how you feel. 

Waiting for results is the hardest part of the journey , it's agonising . Once or IF you get a diagnosis, things will become clearer . I'm sure your husband will want to share your worry with you , would you not consider telling him. X

Dear’Aloneandworried’

I am so sorry for your troubles, and worried state…but you are not alone.  

Of course, as you will find, the forum here is made up of very kind, brave and wonderful women.  

Aside from that, your husband married you for a reason…he loves you and is your helpmate…he is there to support you, as you are there to support him.

Can I also say…you don’t actually know yet that you have ovarian cancer: maybe you have not.   And if the diagnosis turns out to be what you fear, it is not necessarily the end of the world.  Though it is absolutely shite, I admit.   But having been diagnosed in July, and immediately thinking it was a death sentence, I realise this is not the case.   I have had major surgery, and now going through chemo, and I’m learning that the medical team are reasonably confident I will make a full recovery.  I know there are no guarantees, but I am in with a good chance.  I hope and pray it is the same for you, but please let people know how scared you are, including your husband.  It is really hard, but saying and doing nothing will not help you.

Everyone on here will be rooting for you, and wishing you well.  

Take care, and talk to your doctors, or the MacMillan nurses, and then to your husband.

God bless,

SueB.

Thank you - you ladies all’s REM wonderful.   I just don’t want to share my concerns yet until I know something conclusive.   But it feels so strange because we usually share all our troubles.

All seem.   Predictive text!

Thank you, SueB.  I am so sorry about your diagnosis but so pleased that the treatment is working well for you.   I know he would do everything he can to support me but he has not been well himself this year and I just worry about him so much.

Sending you love and strength  

Just checking in to see how you're feeling this morning. X

Oh bless you - thank you.    I am still waiting for the scan so feeling much the same.    My husband is coming in soon and I have taken the decision to let him know what the possible outcome will be.    I feel it is fairer to put him in the picture now rather than land it on him when I get the results.    

I'm so pleased you've come to this decision on your own , I think it's fairer on the both of you. Together you'll be stronger . And no matter what the outcome will be able to support each other.

Thank you