Hi.i just want to give a bit of background. I live with my mum and granny. My granny had dementia and my mum cared for her. My mum is engaged but doesn't live with her fiance due to her caring commitments.
Just before Christmas she told me she had a cyst. She said there was no tumor markings but that it needed removed as was very big.
She told me as precaution they were doing a full hysterectomy. She went in last Monday. She got put at 4pm on Wednesday last week and her mother my granny died at 5pm.
While I was sad about my granny I was happy that my mum can finally live her life. I was to bring her to her follow up appointment today from the surgery. She hasn't told anyone until this morning but after the surgery the doctor told her it was cancer.
So hit with that shock we went to her appointment. The doctor told us it was stage 3 ovarian cancer. He said when he removed her ovaries etc he could see bits of cancer all through the area and some of it was in the sack that Contains your organs and some might be in bowel.
Obviously I was devastated for my mum and she's so amazing and tries to put on a brave face for me and focus on the positives.
It'd hard to take in it all but doctor said it's not something that goes away. She will be dealing with it the rest of her life. He said it all depends and everyone is different.
He said it depends on how you respond to chemo. He said about 80% of people respond to it.
I have been reading online since this and I'm not sure if that's a good or bad thing to do. Some things I've read is
That for stage 3 ovarian cancer. 42% of people live more than 5 years. Others say 34%
I guess my first question is how do I separate that figure into responding to chemo and not responding. If you don't respond do you love 6 months if you do respond can you live 10 years?
I have no idea how long my mum is likely to live. I really want her to be around for my wedding. I've no dad and no brothers and sisters and she's all I have.
I take heart reading stories on here. Some of you who have cancer seem so strong and positive and she is too.
I just need some hope. I don't know if it's wishful thinking to hope she responds well to chemo goes into remission and is alive in 10 years.
I've read stories and figures that say that there is a slightly under 20 % chance if you go into remission your cancer won't return but the doctor said she will be living with it her whole life which he couldn't give a time on.
Does this mean my mum has a type that can't be got rid off?
I also read that if the chemo works. Most ovarian cancer returns within about 6 months.
Does this mean for how ever long she has left she will be constantly getting chemo etc
I know everyone is different and I don't want to be lied too and want the truth but I really could use some good news.
Thanks
