Scared Mam

Just being there and supporting her and telling she will be fine will help her so so much mate , I've recently and still going through this with my wife and it's scary as he'll I know but it's not the end she will and can get better .

My wife has stage 4 ovarian cancer and she is winning so even if she has cancer it's beatable you just got to belive I it and keep her happy etc ,

Make sure she eats good food to and plenty of green veg is very good for the body and a little exercise each day even if a little walk outdoors will be good for her and you as well .

As for 1st appointment it's hard to say what will happen I'm afraid as every case is different but be assured these doctors are fantastic and will look after her and get her better .

And look after yourself to try to find a little hobby or something you can do I've started gardening and it helps me deal with whats going on .

All the very best to you and her and again she can beat this even if it is cancer tell yourself this all the time because many many people do beat it 

Thankyou for replying as I do find it helps to see all the incredible women on her and families that have been in the same situation.

I hope your wife is well too. It’s just heartbreaking seeing loved ones go through this and wish it was me

Yes you feel exactly the same as I do and heartbreaking very much agreed ,

As hard as it is just wanted you to know its very very beatable belive in her keep telling her she will be ok no matter what and you will benefit from seeing her smile and happy with what you say to her , you guys can do it and you will win 

Hi,

first of all you sound a wonderful dad, and if I can give you one tip, it would be to try and keep everything ticking along at home I’m not going to say as normal as things won’t be normal but everyone will be worried, the waiting very stressful, so take the lead from your daughter, if she wants to talk about it …do that …one day she will other days she won’t…just be her dad that’s all she wants…a big hug is often all you need. 
make sure she eats well, and keeps hydrated. 
NOV 20 , I was diagnosed with a large mass on my ovary, it was ultrasound, then CT scan, then MRI…she will probably be on a 2week pathway so one after another, for me as an older lady (56) a full hysterectomy was offered, they do try to keep a younger women’s fertility if they can…all of this will be discussed by a multi displinary team and they will come up with a plan for her.

I had surgery in Dec and my final diagnosis was ovarian cancer 1c, I had 6 cycles of chemotherapy started in February and finished in July. Follow up in August with repeat scans and given all clear… Cancer free

So what I’m really saying is take it one day at a time, don’t goggle and don’t rush ahead in your mind about what ifs,….deal with the facts at this stage it’s an incredible hard wait to a diagnosis… from that you then deal with the next stage…as a parent I would be just wanting to fix everything just like you… but try to be calm and logical and just be there for her…..it’s a huge shock but you will be there for each other..whatever the results come back as.

Your daughter should have had a blood test as well as the scans… most hospitals allow partners/ parents in for the appts…even during lockdown my hubby was always allowed in, he took notes, asked my questions when I couldn’t…and held my hand….

Your daughter could write down all her questions and concerns as prompts (it’s so easy to forget to ask when your in the appt)

My experience of the medical team was fantastic, they were incredible and I felt safe all through it.

Also if it is confirmed as cancer , it’s usual to be assigned a McMillan nurse, who will always be there for her to call.

I hope I’ve been a help, it’s such a difficult time this period , the waiting is agony…I remember it very well but some how we’ve all got through it on here… try to keep your mind busy if you can with a task it really does help

Take care 

Sue

Aw Sue,

this is such an immense help to me and I Thankyou .. I’m a punching bag for my daughter at the minute  and her new husband is struggling with his own emotions bless him. As a young married couple this all seems so unfair but Iv told them to take each day as it comes xx

Ah Sue, what a breath of fresh air reading your post...I was only diagnosed on Friday with cancer in both overies and in my lymph nodes, I was not told what sage it is ( I should have wrote reminder down) good suggestion, I'm waiting to see what treatment I will be given hopefully know by next week.... I'm so pleased for you and yours that you have fought this and won,!!! Fabulous, I'm sure you will have the most wonderful of Christmasasas! Counting all your blessings..

Keep well wishes sent to you.