My mum has been diagnosed with ovarian cancer

Hi  and a warm welcome to the Macmillan Online Community but sorry that you needed to find us and I am especially sorry to hear about your Mum's diagnosis.

Although I had a different type of cancer, any cancer diagnosis brings many questions, lots of confusion and stress but talking with other people who are on the same type of journey will help you navigate this rollercoaster. The Community is organised into dedicated support groups so can I see you have joined our supportive Ovarian cancer group, this will be a good place to connect with others supporting a family member on the same type of cancer journey.

Once you see the Gynaecologist or Specialist next week things will be clearer. Are you going with your Mum? It might be an idea to take a notebook as no-one ever remembers what they're told. We can all understand your fears at this time, we've all been there but I'm sure someone in this group will be along soon to add their welcome.

When you have a minute, it would be great if you could pop something about your Mum's journey so far into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time. 

It’s always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear.

Most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here to see what is available and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.

Sending you welcoming hugs Bx

Hello - so sorry you find yourself here but hoping you’ll find some support from this group and from your Macmillan nurses, and sending you a hug.

Pretty much everyone I’ve encountered on the OC journey agrees that the waiting time in the early stages is the worst - this thing crashes in and takes over your life without warning and fills you with the deepest emotions and the darkest thoughts.

It’s hard to be strong all the time, and you don’t have to be - it’s ok to break down and cry if it helps. You and your mum can be a strong team just by being there to help each other get through - whatever that takes. Sometimes I think it’s harder for the partners and families than for the patient herself - feeling so helpless, and feeling the need to show strength and composure.

I hope you’ll both find (as I did) that once the medical team share results and a plan with you next week, you’ll feel more able to cope with whatever the next steps are for your mum -  New treatments and options are becoming available all the time - so it’s good to stay positive as much as you can, keep faith with your medical team,  and definitely keep away from Google, which tends to have lots of out of date and inaccurate information !

I wish you both all the best on your journey - and remember there’s always somebody here for you,

Bx

Thank you B I really hope you are doing well , im sure I can’t have many tears left in me so time to get my strong head on , I have been constantly on google and frightened myself even more , so thank you for telling me that , I think your right once we get a plan and know where we are things will hopefully feel better , just so anxious waiting , mum is being so brave so I have to be positive for her ! 
thank you for replying to me i really hope you have a positive journey x x