Managing Symptoms - Elderly Relative

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Good Evening

I have joined this group as a relative in her mid 80s has been diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer. She has had a number of scans and biopsies in the last 10 weeks. We are hoping to hear of her latest biopsy result next week. As yet, treatment options have not been discussed.

At her last biopsy, the nurse noticed the build of fluid on her abdomen and she was advised to have this drained. It hadn’t been mentioned to  her before. She felt very poorly and was given a hospital appt a few days later where they drained 8l of ascites. 

I can’t help but feel her cancer is marching on while she awaits a specific diagnosis. How can we help her manage her symptoms while she waits? Is there anyone we can reach out to? Or is it just a case of having to wait until treatment is scheduled?

Very grateful for any advice or experience you can share. My best wishes to those undergoing treatment at the moment xx

  • Hi  and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.

    I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community and, although I'm not a member of this group, I noticed that your post hadn't had any replies yet. Responding to you will 'bump' it back to the top of the discussion list again.

    While you're waiting for replies, it would be great if you could put something about your relative's diagnosis and tests to date into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.

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  • Thank you so much for your reply Slight smile

    Part of the issue seems to be that she hasn’t had a confirmed diagnosis. She has had ultrasound, a CT scan and MRI and now 3 biopsies. The family just received confirmation that the final biopsy result has come in and the hospital will be scheduling an appt with the immediate family for this coming week, which is great news. When her tests began it was suspected ovarian cancer and it will be 3 months next week since this all began. 

  • Hi Snow88

    i feel you have just written my story! My mum is 84 & has only just received an official diagnosis after having CT scan, MRI plus 2 biopsies. I got a call from the specialist cancer nurse today & they have given me 10th Feb as the first possible appointment to discuss treatment options. This has been plodding along since Oct. Like you the only suggestion given along the way was on her 2nd biopsy when it was suggested she could have the fluid drained - which she had the procedure done last Monday - 8lts! I’m at my wits end as to how best to support her. She is worn to a ravelling with it all - but is probably going to proceed with Chemo which feels very scary. 
    I hope for us both that it all ends well.