Living a happy life

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I found myself back on this forum after a decade since my dad was first diagnosed with multiple myeloma. I saw how many people are posting about being newly diagnosed and the fear and uncertainty. This disease is tricky and there is a spectrum of responses to drugs. Some patients do really well and some unfortunately don’t. Those that do well move on in life and hardly go back to post on these forums - so I didn’t want this to get lost on everyone. I know you are afraid right now but there are a lot of people living with myeloma and absolutely normal and beautiful life. Treatments are hard but they can work quite well and you really move on and forget about them. My dad still has does his check ups every 3 months which has become a routine. Things may fluctuate a bit but largely kept at bay so he went to have three grand children, visit Paris, build a house and teach math all which were unthinkable when he was doing his transplant 10 years ago. I am fully aware this is not always the outcome but it is an outcome too

  • Thank you for coming back and leaving a great post       The new normal

    life is still tough but much better than the alternative!  

    May his life continue to flourish. And inspiration for us all.  

    kevin. 

  • Thank you for this, I'm coming up to my 100 days past SCT and going for my biopsy to decide on treatment/ remission maintenance drugs. It's got me really anxious and worrying about the future again. Reading this is reassuring that I'll have a more normal life again in the future. 

  • Hi again  day 100 post SCT is one of the many milestones we all have to pass on this journey. Although I have/had 2 different types of blood cancers (2 very rare T-Cell Non Hodgkin’s Lymphomas) I am now 9.5 years out from my second Allo (donor) SCTs, I turn 70 at the end of this year and I continuing to live a great life.

    As you navigate the post SCT world you may find this old thread in our Stem Cell Transplant group helpful:

    Life after a SCT - A Survivor's Guide

    Mike (Thehighlander)

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  • I will start with a caveat: I didn't have an SCT but I have been in remission since Summer 2023.

    The simple answer is that yes, you are likely to have a more normal life. Maintenance chemo tends to involve smaller doses and fewer trips to hospital, and the chemo tends to have fewer and less side effects. However, responses to treatment varies enormously.

    I obviously know nothing about you, but there is a more nuanced aspect: to what extent do you want or need to go back to your previous life?

    In my own case, I used to commute to London to work long hours in a stressful job. Stress is bad in the context of MM, and fatigue means that I can't work long hours any more. I now work part time from home. That may not be a 'normal' life but I enjoy the new life much more!

    Frankly, I have some savings and am using them on holidays, as well as the odd music concert and theatre trip.

    'Normality' can be much over rated! 

  • Thank you, I'm only 37, I have a 9 year old and mortgage so need to return to work but hoping to drop to 4 days and as I work in a school I get all the holidays off.

    Just the thought of working and taking little holidays as a family is as normal as I need to look forward too.

  • Thank you. The extra info is very helpful in whatever suggestion/advice I can give.

    In terms of living your normal life, I can see how important it is to you. I read a lot of MM research papers, and from them I know that your being young is very helpful in that you are less likely to have material adverse side effects from maintenance than the average MM patient.

    You may or may not know the legal position with regards to employment. Under The Equalities Act 2010, anyone disabled is entitled to 'reasonable adjustments' from their employer. Anyone with cancer automatically is classified as disabled.

    I can't say what, if any, reasonable adjustments you might want but it is something that you may want to bear in mind.

    Also, of course, under the same Act you cannot be discriminated against for having MM.

  • that is a very  positive outlook,  and good for you,      the new normal is tough on us,  patients  but also   tough on our loved ones,    and carers      Kevin