Hubby newly diagnosed

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My hubby has just been diagnosed and is waiting results from last weeks PET scan and CT guided biopsy, and I am really scared.  This diagnosis has come out of the blue after he complained of a pain in his chest for a couple of weeks.  He is also just come to the end of treatment for Prostate cancer which seems to be working.  All this and the COVID restrictions is making life unbearable and I feel so alone and am really dreading the results which will probably be next week.  

  • Hi and welcome to the online community

    I'm sorry to read that your husband has just been diagnosed with mesothelioma.

    It's perfectly normal to be scared about what the upcoming results mean but, as you probably know from your husband's previous prostate diagnosis, you normally feel more in control once a treatment plan is in place.

    You might also like to join the carers only group which is a safe and supportive place to share your worries with other carers. If you'd like to do this just click on the link I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post your questions in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'. 

    When you have a minute, it would be really useful if you could pop something about your husband's journey so far into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.

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  • Hello Kernowgirl1

    I'm so, so sorry to hear of your husband's diagnosis. My husband was diagnosed with pleural mesothelioma on April Fool's Day this year (!). With lockdown and being terrified of Covid-19, I was trying to organise everything all by myself (we have no family): fighting to get grocery deliveries; fighting to get medication deliveries, etc., and generally not sleeping due to stress and fear. I had a bit of a breakdown in July and that's when I discovered how much help is available: GPs, Macmillan, Asbestos Victims' Support Groups, Maggie's Centres. There are lots of people in our situation, unfortunately. It's such a terrible, terrible disease. Please feel free to private message me and I will help as much as I can. The most important thing is not to despair. If you're feeling alone and vulnerable, please contact your GP who will get you the help you need, or me: I'm going through it too and know what it's like. x